Are you ever truly happy?

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Before I turned 22, I was mostly prone to melancholy, but I felt happy sometimes. Then for some reason my emotions totally shut down and I couldn't feel anything. That was almost five years ago, and some emotions have returned, but only negative ones like anger and sadness. I smile, but it's sort of a conditioned response, there's nothing behind it. I miss being able to feel happy, but I've kind of gotten used to feeling nothing at all.

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Well, I am often upset at such times, so I probably understand your son. TODAY I can seem VERY happy, even when miserable. It is a front. So WHAT is wrong with your son, if I am right about why he acts this way? NOTHING! He is being HONEST! At Christmas he may not get what he wants, etc... And take your smiles as a kind of message that he should be happy, etc... when he isn't. He may also not like being distracted from his interests, etc... Heck, I don't like the idea of surprises anyway. And I STILL remember people wasting their money giving me things they should KNOW I don't want. Almost like that kid in "A christmas story"! Remember when a relative gave him the stupid pajamas that looked like a pink bunny?

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I am happy, I suppose. I feel life is worth living and I enjoy it, down to the smallest everyday things, even when I feel sad (I have to be really depressed not to - but even then there seems to be that special something inside me that makes me want to hang on).

It may not always show on the outside. There are times when I can be quite exuberant, but there are others when I'm content to be somewhere deep inside myself and watch things go by as if from the bottom of an ocean. I am still happy then. But I have no idea what my face could look like to others - my guess is that it appears serene at best, and at worst, flat, maybe even miserable and discontented.

People will sometimes ask me what is wrong during such moments, or what made me look so "sour", and it used to make me angry (occasionally it still does) because it is *so* discrepant with how I really feel.

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Perhaps your son is a similar way and feels happy more often than he actually shows it? Maybe he doesn't feel much of a need to express his emotions openly, or he isn't comfortable doing this. It's also possible that he has been facing pressure at school and/or while interacting with his peers, and has actually been feeling depressed because of this, especially now that he is growing up. Do you think it would be a good idea to try and talk to him openly, ask him whether he feels unhappy, and, if he says he does, ask him what is wrong? I'm not sure how good he is at describing his feelings, or how willing/comfortable he would be with this; but even if he does not share much, I think this could still make him feel better because he would feel you are reaching out to him.

I could be wrong of course, I am only saying what would have worked for me if I were in his place.

I don't know if I've ever really been happy. Content yes but being content scares me as it feels like I feel nothing and usually when that occurs something will snap me out of it and it usually isn't pleasant.

The closest I've ever been is content. I have a constant feeling of longing and wistfulness which robs me of some of my happiness.