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22 Sep 2007, 10:34 pm

Brian003 wrote:
Excuse Me- Why would you need a "cure" for AS?

Extremely Logical thought, increased intelligence, independance, and the ability to take everything literally.

Heck, some of you guys always talk about AS like it's a curse.

You don't really actually want to be like everyone else? I don't.

If I was like everyone else and just "followed" the mainstream decisions I would consider myself a complete failure. In all things in life.


AS effects us all differently, not all positive either. My level on the spectrum classifies me as disabled under the ADA. If there was a cure available I would want it.



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22 Sep 2007, 11:48 pm

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I am not looking for a therapist who will tell me things that will make me "feel good." That type of therapy doesn't work with me. If that means I am stupid or close minded or whatever, that's probably what it means.

This is what I am looking for: I am looking for hands-on therapy where I'll be taught how to express my feelings effectively and how to read other people's body language. I also want to be taught how to communicate properly and how interact in social situations. But I don't just want to be told how to do those things. I want to see examples. I want to role play with the therapist; I want the therapist to explain me how I fail when I try to interact socially. I want to be coached. I want the therapist to tell me: "look, you did this and this wrong, you should have done it this way, and this is why." I then want to be taught why certain unwritten social norms are appropriate and why some are not. I want arguments that are grounded on reason; I want to hear logic. I don't want to hear "just because" arguments -- that's gibberish to me.

Does this type of therapy exist? And if so, what is it called?


Such a thing does exist--you can find it with a certain kind of therapist (psychologist/social worker/etc.) who is willing to work with you on these things (you'd have to communicate your needs from the beginning, and you may need to shop around), or from a life coach. I've worked with both therapists (my most recent one was very helpful, actually) and have also had a coach. Coaches and therapists do different things, and the coach was particularly helpful with concrete, everyday, get-your-butt-in-gear-and-go type stuff. Many of them work with you over the phone and via email, so it's not critical to find someone in your town (mine was in Colorado while I lived in NYC; she studied with this guy: http://www.ericmaisel.com/). Try doing a google search for {"life coach" asperger's} or {"life coach" ADHD} and you're bound to find something (a lot of people with ADHD struggle with similar social issues). You can also look for directories of coaches on other websites for AS. You'll probably want to be pretty selective--find someone with certification, check their credentials, etc.



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23 Sep 2007, 3:50 am

An Acting coach. The world is a stage, people want to believe what they see.

Most programs, for most people do it the same. Sales, public speaking, you take over and run the show. It is what they expect, Hi!, How are you , he said while putting out his hand. It does not matter if you are looking for votes or selling cars, meet, greet, and do not stop.

I can see that you have heard all the psycobabble, this program, that, these twelve steps, the ten rules, and you can tell hype when you hear it. The only people that works for are selling the book! Am I right!

Well here's the real deal, the entire Universe is completly insane. Pause. I mean it, they have no idea of what will happen next. The secret to everything, and I mean everything, is putting on a good show. Do not take it personally, they do it to you, but you can remember the Golden Rule, Do unto others as you wish, and do it first.

Actor or audience, take your pick, even two actors can get along, but get up on the stage and watch the audience, and there will be problems.

Second you need public relations. There you are, on stage, hundreds watching, you have no idea, they have no idea, so introduce yourself, thank them for coming, tell them you would like to have them all over for lunch, but live in a studio, say you hear they are in for a great show tonight, then walk off stage.

You did your bit, and passed the buck to what follows. If nothing, it will be blamed, for you did welcome them and invite them to lunch.

The world is a silly and shallow place, lighten up!



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23 Sep 2007, 4:11 am

Inventor wrote:
The world is a stage, people want to believe what they see....
The world is a silly and shallow place, lighten up!

Yes and yes. But if all the world's a stage and we're merely players, it helps to know what play we're in.
As a formally-trained former actor, I can tell you that actors are some of the most socially awkward people around (especially the musical theater people). A lot of celebrities, however, are genuinely charismatic--which is how they got to be celebrities. Save yourself a few thousand bucks on acting school, if social insight is what you're after, and just read a bunch of Shakepeare, Ibsen, Chekhov, and Williams. Improv classes, on the other hand, might actually be kind of helpful, and fun. Doesn't replace a coach though.



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23 Sep 2007, 7:00 am

I believe can be cured - I have not had a system crash/lock-up for 6 months now, since I turned off Aspie systemising - and am beginning now to really enjoy many social situations - http://unlearningasperger.blogspot.com/ .
Very best wishes to you
JC



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23 Sep 2007, 7:32 am

im not gonna clic that link u know that? :lol:



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23 Sep 2007, 7:36 am

JCJC777 wrote:
I believe can be cured - I have not had a system crash/lock-up for 6 months now, since I turned off Aspie systemising - and am beginning now to really enjoy many social situations - http://unlearningasperger.blogspot.com/.
Very best wishes to you
JC


just when I thought I finally found what I am looking for, turns out the page is down!



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23 Sep 2007, 7:41 am

Mw99 wrote:
JCJC777 wrote:
I believe can be cured - I have not had a system crash/lock-up for 6 months now, since I turned off Aspie systemising - and am beginning now to really enjoy many social situations - http://unlearningasperger.blogspot.com/.
Very best wishes to you
JC


just when I thought I finally found what I am looking for, turns out the page is down!


Asperger's is a behavior that is learned and therefore can be unlearned? :?

If you buy that one than you'll also buy the "refrigerator mom" theory.


And also this bridge in Brooklyn I have up for sale.... :)



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23 Sep 2007, 10:24 am

think it is working - just don't leave the fullstop at the end; http://unlearningasperger.blogspot.com/

all the best

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