Are you reclusive?

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This comes closest to my version of reclusiveness-partial, in some areas/types of everday interactions more than others. My boyfriend drives me places & accompanies me, providing crucial emotional understanding & support to help me through-I'm agoraphobic & have social anxiety, etc. Need plenty of time alone because I'm so self-centered and I dislike & have difficulty attending to anyone else (keeping track of stuff about them in memory). Have to write down & study pages of notes I've taken on each individual person (that I've met "in-person") to try to consciously "learn" them.
Can get into stories of people on tv or in movies or books, because they don't require action or response from me. Real life does-therefore I shrink away from leaving my home & being seen by people in public. There's too much for me to handle "behaving normally" in outside world full of strangers, processing my own internal reactions on many levels-plus noticing, looking at, or listening to people I don't know: figuring out what they mean, what do I mean, how does this go, what's next ?

I'm a recluse, yeah. I was never really much for social gatherings or parties, as I'd rather stay home to relax, go on the internet, watch some movies, stuff like that. I do go out with a few of my friends from time to time, but since my plans for those get side tracked a lot, I just wind up staying home instead.

Although I'am going to Barnes and Noble with hopes of meeting new people.

Yes. More reclusive now in fact. As I get older, it's harder for me to be with people for more than a few hours. I get overwhelmed. I still work so making the effort to interact on the job is a major stress requiring solitude to recharge for the next day. Having a cat is SO important to me. And a quiet, safe house with house plants and a small garden. One day at a time as they say... I really look forward to quitting work for good. How I've managed this long is a mystery to me.

Definitely reclusive. I was just wondering today how I could afford to live without having to go out (ever).

I don't not think of it as preferring my own company, or I would not even come on to this forum. I would just like to not go into town/work/stores.

You described me to a "T"! I also found that as I age, I become more of hermit. I have very little desire to leave the house and/ or to attempt to socialize w/ other people. It has been six moths since my last romantic relationship and I haven't even wanted to go out on a date. The whole dating process seems too overwhelming! I have a small group of people I trust, which includes My Mother, Grandmother, my close friend who is also a diagnosed aspie, and another close friend who is bi-polar.

Yes, I'm very reclusive. I don't need much human contact at all.

I can go either way.

Tim

I prefer both.

Most of the time when I am doing something productive such as studying/practicingsports/doingwhateveritisthatIdo I like to be alone.

When I want to do something non productive, I dont mind other people around. In fact, sometimes I like having them around.