TIRED of being RIDICULED and VILIFIED - Help!

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Just one more of the many delights of being aspie.

Nobody tells a blind person it's their fault they can't see.

Nobody tells an amputee they just need to take leg growing classes.

But if you can't detect and transmit nonverbal communication, it's your fault, and you just need to take some class, or you're not trying, or you're doing it on purpose.

Note that some aspies report that by studying nonverbal communication, books or something, they learn to function well enough. They usually say it's a strain.

Me, I don't know. I never managed to get better at whatever it is that everybody else is doing, but I guess some aspies do manage to learn.

Mw99 - DITTO.


Assuming that you and I and other posters here are not raving, psychotic nutters, then this IS what we experience. It's not 'giving off negative vibes' and attracting this atrocious NT behavior. What we're experiencing is typical NT behavior which typically lacks the integrity of Aspie attitudes.

We need classes to teach us how to lie, deceive, manipulate...?! ! Let's call this for what it actually is.

As I look around my true, NT friends they are those who have the very highest integrity - they don't lie or cheat or manipulate or talk negatively of me behind my back. You know why? Because I cannot help but be scrupulously honest (although nowadays I've learnt from painful experience when and how to be honest). My friends appreciate that and also hold themselves to high standards. I would say that most NTs don't - they go along with whatever mode of 'truth' is in fashion at the moment as long as it benefits them and ensures their place in the sheep pen. (It's called variously 'moral relativism', 'not being black and white', 'being able to see grey areas'...anything but call it what it is...hypocrisy, lack of empathy, cruelty...)

Probably best to find yourself some high integrity friends, a community that appreciates your original thinking and straightforwardness. You are a trustworthy and very valuable human being....keep shinging your light and leave the dross behind.

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Neurotypicals are becoming more and more irritating to me every day, so I can definitely see where Mw99 is coming from. The majority of the NT's I talk to (or TRY to talk to) are completely self-absorbed, and it comes out in their verbal and non-verbal interactions. NT teenagers, for example, are almost completely obsessed with themselves and could truly care less about others. I NEVER hear from my nephews (19 and 17), as they have their own thing. I get the feeling they simply erase me from their minds unless I'm in Illinois visiting. I also rarely ever hear from my sister, as she is very self-absorbed. I think NT's are, by nature, mostly self-absorbed, so caring about the differences of others is something they simply don't do well with.

I think I have made the decision to make at least 75-80% of my social interactions with other Aspies. I want to be able to hang out with and communicate with those of "my world", as they seem to understand me and others like me. I think this kind of partial seperation from the Neurotypical Universe is necessary for our long-term sanity. This is why I am joining an Aspie support group in my town.

I am finding it a hard thing to reply to this thread. I think many aspies have a genuine desire to learn social skills. the question is how. It is not a simple and straightforward thing.

Zak, those folks help "normal" guys meet women. They don't help autistic people act normal.