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What sort of Parents did you have?
My Parents where good to me 29%  29%  [ 12 ]
My Parents where OK 12%  12%  [ 5 ]
My Parents might have been ok but they couldnt cope with my Aspie behaviour 15%  15%  [ 6 ]
My Parents seperated before I reached Puberty 10%  10%  [ 4 ]
My parents where not very good at all 10%  10%  [ 4 ]
My Parents where so bad, I would have turned out neurotic even if I wasnt AS 24%  24%  [ 10 ]
Total votes : 41

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04 Oct 2007, 3:25 pm

Zwerfbeertje wrote:
When I first read about PDD-NOS I thought it was the 'denial' version of RAD ...

Symptoms of PDD's and RAD do overlap, it seems plausible to me that a failure to communicate and a lack of understanding between child and caregiver would have the same outcome as (emotional) neglect. The RAD like symptoms in ASD's could well be the result of attachment problems.

Did anyone here ever take online attachment-tests?

I'd certainly look into the RAD issues, Nambo, there's so much overlap and I doubt you'd get reliable information about your early years from your parents to help support a proper ASD diagnosis.

About my parents, I don't really blame them, except for staying together. Oh, well, lets just say that I am glad my childhood is a long time in the past.


Cheers Zwerfbeerje,
So PDD-NOS, whats the difference between this and AS?, they sound pretty similar to me.
Seems a lot of overlapping gets done, seems a lot of reaserch is still needed to define whats what, and what causes what.

You are correct about not getting any info from my parents, especialy as I have noting to do with them, I do remember quite a lot about my childhood though, releveant things such as wondering way I didnt even feel sad when my beloved Grandfather died.
My Childrens home notes mention I didnt react upon the news of my Grandmother passing either, and that though I had a friend, it was noticed a total lack of emotional attachment.



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04 Oct 2007, 3:28 pm

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My mother told me yesterday she'd like me to be like Doda. :lol: As far as I know nobody on this forum (with an exception of Likho who participates in discussions very rarely) is Polish but a person from my country having heard the word "Doda" knows instantly who it is. I'd call her a Polish counerpart of Paris Hilton (not so rich, obviously) - she's equally vulgar, shallow-minded and simply stupid (even though she lies to people she's in Mensa what according to the statement delivered by this organization is veeery far from truth :? ). She's incredibly vulgar and always talk out of the top of her head during interviews. It's just as if an American parent expressed hope that her daughter should behave and talk like Paris Hilton.


Cant quite claim to be Polish Irulan, but my Grandparents where on my real Fathers side, I consider that must be where I get my boyish good looks from as the Polish are about the prettist people in the world!



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04 Oct 2007, 3:37 pm

I liked my Dad, he was a very kind and loving parent, my mom was a nightmare though. She'd have her moments where she'd be nice, but only if we were on our best behavior. I do understand why she was the way she was, between three kids, two of which were hyperactive to no end, money problems, and her own messed up past it was difficult for her to relax. Bad parenting advice also played a part, like when she caught me and my older brother playing with matches at the ages 5 and 8. After consulting friends with children they told her sticking a blown out match to the skin would teach us not to play with fire ((I still have the scar)). This tendancy to overpunish never really went away....



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04 Oct 2007, 3:42 pm

My mom was and still is great to me. My dad was absent allot, both physically and emotionally, but I think my AS comes from him. I spent allot of time with my grandmother and great aunt and they played a large part in raising me. We were dirt poor for a really long time but I was never left wanting. The greatest gifts I got as a kid were a shiny new bike and a library card. My mom realized early on that I was a tad off and adapted her parenting style to suit my unique needs. The more I read, the more I realize that people don't always have a good family relationship. I'm really glad I do and while there are some parts of childhood I'd like to go back and change, I don't regret any of it.

I particularly enjoy my memories of my "Uncle", a chain smoking boozer who was an old Coast Guard friend of my dad's. He taught me how to fish, how to tie up and launch a boat, the best brand of cigarettes (Parliament), and where to get a cheap beer. He also taught me how to swear like the best of them and defend myself in a fight. I was a strange little girl. :lol: