CeriseLy wrote:
Well, I didnt tell mine about my noise aversion until a few years ago. Before, I just sucked it up. She was pushing the metal step can against the kitchen cart so that it clanged every time she opened it and again when she closed it. She and my brother also have this half assed way of inching the groaning dishwasher door open or close. They don't open or close it in one motion so it is an exaggerated haunted house groan. She did it more after I told her and she made crashing noises when she wanted to wake me. Looking back, I think that the style in which she woke me up in the mornings (i.e. with anger) exacerbated my noise aversion and elevated it to aversion from simple noise hyperdetection. Anyway, she would also inconsiderate of our neighbors allow how metal storm door to slam. I told her all of this to make her more mindful and less of an obnoxious person. That had nothing to do with aspieness. Luckily I am now cured of noise aversion and I just don't give a sh**. All my life she has used noise to express her anger in the house and when I told her finally that it bothered me, she did not let up. That NYT article about aspieness came out years ago. She is still a b***h. I told her that her son's Fragile X came from her and she still pulls mind games with him and she is the one who ends up paying the price for her warping him. He's still "if you insist" about meals in the house.
I wouldn't think that disliking a hanging thread makes you so different from NTs. My mother is very vain and will not let her children touch her but especially will not let us touch her face and most importantly her perfect tidy hair. She is a narcissist. Aspies seem to blame themselves and if one of us had a touch aversion, we wouldn't tend to justify it and punish others for violating our terrain but an NT just might.
Look, I wouldn't have hurt you over your aversion even before I learned there was a name to what my father called our problem. I bet there are NT kids who have way more annoying incidents of stubbornness. It sounds to me that you hope that less ignorance about aspieness would have cured your abusive homelife. There is nothing my mother can claim to have been disrupted by due to my cloaked aspieness. And she still was a rough course.
At this blog from a mother of a son who has Autism:
http://motherofshrek.blogspot.com/
She has been posting interesting articles, about how things NTs do everyday, are given negative terms for those who are on the Autism Spectrum. It seems to go with your statement about how disliking a cotton thread would make you that much different from NTs. It doesn't, it just seems for some reason people like to use negative language towards things that a person on the Autism spectrum life. Maybe to make them feel they're better than them.
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08 Oct 2007, 2:34 pm
Well in some cases from what I've read yes, there tends to be a higher number of autistic children being abused but, I'm not sure what the statistical responses indicate though.Yet, I'll go on the record as saying I had to deal with an emotiona/mental abusive father whom I've had no contact with since from the age of 19..Anyways, I'd hope that people out there learn not to abuse someone regardless of their mental nor physical capacities..
