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13 Oct 2007, 11:42 pm

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Sometimes I stare at people I love, as a way of showing affection. My dad has teasingly dubbed this behavior "perching", as in the way a vulture perches beside its prey.


That sounds more like Snoopy imitating a vulture in "Peanuts". I used to do that to our cats and they'd trot away, stopping a couple of times to look back with wide eyes and their ears back. It's a wonder I didn't get clawed. :D


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14 Oct 2007, 3:44 am

I used to get that all the time when I was 8. Kids would ask me "Who are you staring at?" Then I sometimes got it when I got older. Now I don't get that anymore. People grow up and don't ask it anymore.



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14 Oct 2007, 5:50 am

In my younger dayz ppl used 2 say 2 me wot ur staring at n i said i ain't staring at u im just lookin around dats all n recently in work some woman came up 2 me n said stop lookin at my tits but i wasn't lookin at her tits i was lookin down on me paperwork.



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14 Oct 2007, 6:10 am

howzat wrote:
In my younger dayz ppl used 2 say 2 me wot ur staring at n i said i ain't staring at u im just lookin around dats all n recently in work some woman came up 2 me n said stop lookin at my tits but i wasn't lookin at her tits i was lookin down on me paperwork.

Can I get that in proper english?



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14 Oct 2007, 7:33 am

I stare at people I like; my mother usually notices me staring at her and informs me that it annoys her (I forget).



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14 Oct 2007, 7:40 am

People sometimes accuse me of staring, not always at them, but often at some object off in the distance. They'll say something to the effect of "What are you looking at?"



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14 Oct 2007, 10:37 am

Yes, but its people who i'm not talking to. I used to do it all the time in school, and i just didn't realize it was inappropriate behavior. Luckily i think people just considered me a harmless weirdo, coz otherwise i could have got in some real trouble.



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14 Oct 2007, 1:03 pm

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Yes, but its people who i'm not talking to. I used to do it all the time in school, and i just didn't realize it was inappropriate behavior. Luckily i think people just considered me a harmless weirdo, coz otherwise i could have got in some real trouble.


Me too. I didn't even realize there was anything wrong with it until I was about 16 or 17.



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15 Oct 2007, 1:32 am

lastcrazyhorn wrote:
IdahoRose wrote:
Sometimes I stare at people I love, as a way of showing affection. My dad has teasingly dubbed this behavior "perching", as in the way a vulture perches beside its prey.


Well, now that I think of it, I do that with some of my friends. They seem to think it's cute. :)


My mom doesn't mind, but others get annoyed when I do it.



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15 Oct 2007, 7:21 am

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I used to have that problem.

I think it might have as much to do with expression as well. If you don't smile and you maintain eye contact, it's seen as intimidating.

After much practice, you kind of get into the habit of smiles, nods, looking away at scenery for a while then returning back to eye contact.

Basically, they want you to look at them and nod if you agree with what they are saying. When you talk, gesture a bit, cast your attention around the room or horizon a little, as if what you're saying isn't that important. But then listen to them when they respond with smiles and nods.

It's like a ratio that you have to fine tune and you should judge how far you go one way or the other on a situational basis.

I would like to know where you learnt this stuff as I would like to learn it too.

...Oh, and mirroring. If someone smiles when talking to you, smile in pretty much the same way. If it's subtle, you smile subtly, if it's broad, go fairly broad (but don't over do it). If they are saying something serious and not smiling, don't smile. All in all, try to follow their gestures, but in a slightly more subdued fashion.



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15 Oct 2007, 9:32 am

Yes, I've had persons make such statements as, always I do tend to often overly focus on someone when being in a social surrounding however, I try not to make it into something bad.
That does it for me now.



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