Serious Face

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So is this what I am or what? I don't understand why I am so weird and can't connect!

From secondary school to today, I've been told to smile or cheer up. I just say why. That really gets them. Being Lord of the Geeks at school, one of the Fellowship, Dave, would call me Harrison Ford because I always looked like a serious Harrison Ford. If anyone takes a photo, they get annoyed that I appear to be dead or something, so I now instinctively pull a stupid face. They just take the picture with me gurning.

i experienced the same thing. when i was finishing the uni everybody was sad that the times are ending and i was the only one excited about the future. i didn't care, i was looking forward. but yes, it was strange listening to the people talking about how much they are going to miss me and at the same time i didn't care about leaving them. it was nice starting something new in my life.


just stop worrying...


and this is the proof that you don't have to care

I crack jokes a lot because that's the way our household was when I was growing up. Mom was raised the same way. If I'm focusing on something I'm sometimes told to smile or that I look angry. I may smile and say something like "grrr" or "snarl, snap, claw the air" so the idiot will leave.

I've posted this before, and I'll post it after:

"Have you noticed that the imbecile always smiles? Man's first frown is the first touch of God on his forehead. The touch of thought." From The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand.

I get that too. I want to smile only when I want to; not because I'm being told it only takes 17 muscles, or it's not hard to do, or they don't like me to. The reality is that smiling makes it easier for other people to talk to you or open up to you. I don't like that much, but take it from other people who are mostly emotionally driven. If they weren't emotionally driven, then a smile would become insignificant. Yet, I find myself smiling or laughing when I'm around friends, making jokes, and in my favorite interests like math and art. But only because I want to be.

Being asked why I looked so serious / sad was one of my pet peeves. It bothered me because I wasn't feeling sad nor serious! But come to think of it, no-one has said that to me for quite a few years now. Seems that either people expect us to look sad/serious when we get older, or my face has finally gained some character

Quite, people who tell me to cheer up have no idea why I'm so dour in the first place.

It is much better than the response I get to faking ape faces.

When I try it strips their gears, I have no idea what they read, but they leave quickly.

The only time I smile is when some fool wants to play bully, figuring I am an easy mark, I am a very happy fighter. I have been told I smile like a shark.

It does work when playing poker, no one can read me. The best they can do is the opposite, so I can read them. I have no idea what, but only that they are lying.

No matter what monkey face they are making, I usually think they are lying.

Me too.

used to be told i look grumpy/grouchy all the time, coupled with the way i walk, people tend to get out of my way.

i can be very animated if i enjoy the company, am often laughing into my books and probably mistaken for loony but otherwise i have little reason to flash my dimples unless told so. i usually oblige too, it does no harm and i'm not worried about wrinkles

People tell me I often look bored. And I most likely am! What do they want me to do? Look excited when I'm bored to death? lol