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KristaMeth
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15 Oct 2007, 2:32 pm

I was always a "problem child" at heart. I was raised by a Jehovah's Witness mother, and they're all passive and whatnot, no matter how bad someone is mentally and emotionally scarring you. I lashed out quite a few times in middle school when I got fed up with the bullying, it went unnoticed by the teachers (thankfully therefore nonpunishable by mom). Until of course someone in school saw cuts on my arms and everyone freaked out and 302'd me. I was in and out of the psych. ward 4 or 5 times, which I think made me feel more like an ass than my family. At that point pretty much everyone but me was understanding of my issues, and I just wanted to crawl into a hole and die of embarrassment, because I felt I'd embarrassed everyone else. But those were the not so fun days of being a problem child. The real fun came when I moved in with my dad and started (literally) kicking ass. Having the other kids wear fake lip rings that my dad made because I got suspended for wearing my real one which was a "safety hazard". Challenging the authority figures that took advantage of their position. Becoming good friends with the teachers who truly taught. Walking out of school with my hemorrhagic friend who for some f'd up reason, was not being allowed to call home. You know... all the cool things we AS rebels do. What was beautiful was when they put me in alternative school for getting suspended too many times, and I actually wanted to stay there. No one actually taught, a teacher just watched us for 4 hours while we did our work (AND it was in the evening, tell me how that's not a sweet deal?). I dropped out of there with straight A's.


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15 Oct 2007, 2:36 pm

KristaMeth wrote:
I was always a "problem child" at heart. I was raised by a Jehovah's Witness mother, and they're all passive and whatnot, no matter how bad someone is mentally and emotionally scarring you. I lashed out quite a few times in middle school when I got fed up with the bullying, it went unnoticed by the teachers (thankfully therefore nonpunishable by mom). Until of course someone in school saw cuts on my arms and everyone freaked out and 302'd me. I was in and out of the psych. ward 4 or 5 times, which I think made me feel more like an ass than my family. At that point pretty much everyone but me was understanding of my issues, and I just wanted to crawl into a hole and die of embarrassment, because I felt I'd embarrassed everyone else. But those were the not so fun days of being a problem child. The real fun came when I moved in with my dad and started (literally) kicking ass. Having the other kids wear fake lip rings that my dad made because I got suspended for wearing my real one which was a "safety hazard". Challenging the authority figures that took advantage of their position. Becoming good friends with the teachers who truly taught. Walking out of school with my hemorrhagic friend who for some f'd up reason, was not being allowed to call home. You know... all the cool things we AS rebels do. What was beautiful was when they put me in alternative school for getting suspended too many times, and I actually wanted to stay there. No one actually taught, a teacher just watched us for 4 hours while we did our work (AND it was in the evening, tell me how that's not a sweet deal?). I dropped out of there with straight A's.


Was a sweet deal :)


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15 Oct 2007, 2:42 pm

ouinon wrote:
Schools are bad news ; see books by John Holt " Escape from Childhood" and " How to make children fail" ( or something similar!) and Ivan Illich "Deschooling Society" .

Schools are seriously bad news for introverts and ASD sufferers.

And homes too ! !

Nope, but seriously , yes I remember the problem-child, black-sheep, one who wrecks family holidays, scapegoat, inconsiderate etc "role". The thing is that I now realise I must have seemed like that. I was disconnected.


We all could prolly write books ourselves on the hellish experiences in *school*. I literally had a sadist for my 3rd grade who would tell us to *put your feet under the desks, or I'll kick your shins in!* I thought I'd forgiven her. I did a whole ceremony about that....guess the pain is still with me after all these years. My God she was a nightmare.
I disconnected from day one - in kindergarten - never understood wtf anyone wanted from me - it was clearly a case of a child who needed to be homeschooled, or at least in a loving, caring, supporting learning environment. Yeah - maybe in the next life...∆∆∆∆∆


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15 Oct 2007, 6:53 pm

school for me was really not that bad I just spent most of my time completely alone in the crowd.