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i'm never sure how to react, so i brush it off with "it's nothing", but people mistake that for modesty or humility, which isn't it either.

i will then go back home, and the words would run in my head while i analyze to bits which parts i did well enough to deserve praise, or whether i should have accepted it graciously, or if i should have tried harder because i didn't think whatever i did was worthy of the praise. it can be very vexing. especially if it is job related for "it's my job" after all.

ditto for criticism, to which i react worse and take a longer time to recover from.

i feel that way too sometimes.

I hate being praised. If its obvious that I did something good then I don't want to hear about it.

I'm a sucker for compliments, but excessive gratitude makes me cringe with embarrassment.

I think it's nice to be complimented, feels good.. but with aspergers, i really don't like it when evryone starts looking at you when you're the "focus" of the moment..

that's the part i find most ridiculous. you're being praised and want to feel proud of it,
but don't want/like people looking/staring at you.

ARRgggh. hmm...~

When I feel under-appreciated I crave praise. But when it comes I don't know how to accept it. At best I turn away and shrug it off, at worse I feel deeply suspicious and wonder what they're after. I guess there's no pleasing me!

I love praise, and don't like being criticized (don't know if either is to an abnormal extent)...but the one problem with praise is that then I feel pressure, like I'm going to screw up and be disapointing or something.

I sort of do that in real life too.

The problem with praise for me is I never believe it, even if it's sincere.

I was working at this place doing some flyers, this woman who worked there and who I didn't know very well was very enthusiastic about the daft pictures I was drawing. It irritated me because I hate faint praise. I obviously didn't take the praise well because another member of staff took me aside and said "if she says it's good, it's good! Have the good grace to accept it".

I don't hate praise, I just find it really hard to accept. It's nothing to do with modestey either, it's just difficult to accept that someone sincerely believes what I did was praiseworthy. Maybe it's years of people patting me on the head and trying to encourage me with faint praise, or maybe my own standards of what I do are too high.

Yes, I understand this totally. It plays havoc with the part of me that feels I'm being constantly judged; when I'm thrown into the limelight and and held up for praise, even a brief mention, my paranoia kicks in as I wonder who resents me getting praise, or whether I deserved it.

Would be nice to just accept it and move on.

I am not a person who seeks praise, per se, but results. If the praise comes about through something I have attempted to do, I like it. If I don't feel I am accomplishing enough, I think praise is empty.

Awwww... Worship.... Worship.... Worship...

Better?

I can't stand it when people praise me when it is insincere. It's like, when I clearly suck at something and I know they're being nice, or when it's kind of like a cheering on the sped thing (people don't know about my AS, I just suck at life that much).

Praise embarasses me. Sometimes I will be angry if someone praises me for something that I feel isn't good because I will think they are just trying to be nice and I hate that.
If I do something that is worthy of praise then sure I like it.

I only like small praise though...meaning that I like it if someone says "well done" or "Good job" etc. But I hate it if people take it too far and act like i've saved the planet from a meteor shower

Like being praised? Of course! But then depending on what the praise is, I will sometimes freeze up, because I don't know how to handle the praise. Then the "praiser" feels upset because it looks like I didn't appreciate it.

So true. Btw, I like every reply of yours that I've read so far... I like the things you have to say