GUY ASPIES: Do women approach you then quickly reject you?

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It's happened to me a very small number of times, infact only once did I realise they were interested that same day. Everytime they are gone fast. I'm not even *that* bad socially if I've been drinking but I'm still bad.

Ya, in high school and even afterwards their were a few instances of a women approaching and me, not knowing what the hell to do must have came off as uninterested and that was the end of that...

Yes, this has happened to me. Its really,really painful. Especially if you're just minding your own business,getting along with your day, then along comes a reminder of your ineptitude,like being hit in the face with a shovel.

Yup, happened to me a few times though most of the time they just ignore me from the start and never approach. Also sometimes it just crosses the line of stupidity and sexism; they seem to expect me to show a lot of interest when I don't really know them and if I don't (and I generally *don't*) they react quite strongly.

Happens online too say, in mIRC. . . I once decided I wouldn't say a single word more than whatever chick started a conversation. . . on purpose; it never failed to go like this:

DumChicklolol111: Hi
Dionysus; He who has Been Crucified: Hello.
DumChicklolol111: How r u?.
Dionysus; He who has Been Crucified: Fine. Thanks. How are you?
DumChicklolol111: fine

(5 minutes)

DumChicklolol111: you are such a bore! get lost! loser!

I can relate to what the topicstarter has posted. But...

exactly. Maybe we should remember the woman in the story is being shallow and not even trying to discover the persons we really are. Beautiful woman or not, aren't we better off without someone that fails to look deeper than the surface?

Yeah it happens. Once the smile lasted until the very second she said her name and I made the mistake(?) to respond with my own.
I still don't get it. She looked freaked out.

I had that happen to me a few times.
Not long after i found out they had a crush on me.
I didn't get annoyed either because i didn't care lol.
If they didn't like you, they'd have hit you in the face more likely.

They approach and then I either look at them too much or not enough at the right times. Then they get the wierded out look and it's all down the shitter from there.

I think there have been only two instances in my life where a female approached me for something relationship wise. First time i was too young and wasn't interested in girls then, the other time was a girl on a dating site who i got to know and meet, but I got the impression she didn't want anything to do with me afterwards and I blew her off.

If there had been any other times a woman approached me for something relationship wise, I've been oblivious to it.

I pretty much ignore everyone(Guy or Girl) who approaches me unless I know them and/or consider them to be important.

If some random girl came over to me and was interested in me for some superficial reason I wouldn't even bother to say hi back or even talk to her.

But again, WHY must it have to be a good looking girl? Looks are such a shallow thing, it amazes me how so many people revolve their lives around them.

There were these 7th and 8th graders who did some "paparazzi" prank on me. Really sucked. One girl hastened to grab my phone, type her number, and called me incessantly. Thankfully, by the grace of the sweet tea I dropped my phone in, it stopped.

Ha ha! That's about how well I can carry on a conversation on a chat site I have no clue what to say. Bad enough when I have a ton of time to think about it.

nope

Yes I can relate. You guys who've had girls get up and leave are lucky. On two occasions, the girl YAWNED. Guess I was just boring them to tears. This is why I don't go to clubs anymore.

Happens all the time.
I don't know how to react when a girl is flirting with me.

I do. I ... well, here's one event I remember well:

I was sitting at a computer terminal and I momentarily looked up through a glass divider to a classroom. In the room, alone, was a very nice teacher. School had let out about a half hour before and I was just working away, oblivious, except for noticing her for a moment. She smiled at me, I smiled back, and when on typing away. She came around the divider wall and stood next to me. She said, "Kiss me." I looked up, scared more than anything, said, "Uh.. no." And ran away down the hall and out of the school.

So I guess I knew what to do... run. Done it many times, in fact. Took me more years than I'd like to say before I could even hold hands with someone. And even finally then, I couldn't sleep or eat the next day.

Jon