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20 Oct 2007, 2:03 pm

That teacher seems like a loser to me. I hope that never happens to you, ever again.


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20 Oct 2007, 2:12 pm

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I wrote about it touching on my worst fear, that when I close my eyes forever, my life will have been for naught because I will have changed nothing, made no difference in the life of anyone. That is my worst fear. Call it depressing to consider what makes a life having meaning, but I don't think anything wrong with it.


I would agree with the others on here that the teacher was just being a jerk as the paper was probably just in HIS OPINION not what he preferred to read about or perhaps an idea he didn't agree with.. especially considering that you seem to have written about a valid human concern. Many, many people worry that they may leave the earth without ever having left their mark or making a difference in the world: even many who are in no way in the spectrum. I am sorry this happened to you as he had no right to treat you that way: you didn't deserve that. Just remember there will always be jerks in the world you will have to contend with.



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20 Oct 2007, 5:37 pm

Your teacher is not ignorant, he is an ABUSER.

He is ABUSIVE. What he did to you is extremely humilating and an abuse of his power and an abuse of you.

I am SO angry for you. I know it's a difficult thing to do but please make a strong complaint to your college's disability office and to the faculty head. He should NOT have done this to you.

A sidenote: many people make the massive mistake of imagining that ASD characteristics and behaviors can be overcome by 'thinking positively' and 'overcoming your fears' via psychological interventions.

ASDs are neurological conditions. Their effects can sometimes be ameliorated by psychological means, but essentially they are hard-wired. To ask most Aspies to overcome fear of public speaking by 'thinking positive' is rather like telling a paraplegic to get out of his wheelchair and run a marathon by thinking himself into doing it.

Boy, am I mad at this a-hole teacher of yours.



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20 Oct 2007, 5:54 pm

AnnabelLee wrote:
I am fuming as I sit here hurting. I have been stressed and my sensory has been unbelievable today. I had a teacher who chose me and a few others to read our writings out loud. First of all, making me read my own work aloud is really hard. To make me stand before the class, a chosen few, and do it is horrifying. I was trembling so badly, my friend could see it from her seat in the back of the room. I was crying and shaking and I pleaded with him (taking him aside) and reminded him this was a major part of my disability (have have severe social/anxiety problems). I was told I needed to "face my fears" and "get over it"! Afterwards, he said it was great, then proceeded to rip apart the depressive nature of my paper! It was a personal writing about a song that speaks to you. Mine is "If I Close My Eyes Forever" by Ozzy Osborne. My choice! My feelings, yet he tells me I'm wrong. He even made a comment about me needing psychological help if I really feel that way! (I posted my paper on my Myspace if anyone wants to judge for themselves! My name is Annabel Lee on there and email is [email protected]) In front of the class, he does/says all of this. He was not quiet about lecturing me about using my autism as an "excuse". If I were prepared to do this, I may have just gritted my teeth. I was suddenly put into the spotlight after being humiliated by having my condition announced and denounced before the entire class.
Does anyone else get stuff like this, this kind of mistreatment? I am still shaky several hours later.
b***h out the administration. That's always worked for me. Well, it's always been satisfying, anyway. It's their job to make sure that your teachers understand the seriousness of your condition, and it's their job to enforce the rules that were put there to protect you. Make sure that they stay on task. People who wear suits and sit in offices have no purpose in their existence other than to be held to blame. This is why we pay them so much. If they couldn't afford to take a cruise every year, they would go insane.



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20 Oct 2007, 6:32 pm

Annabel,

I can't believe this sort of crap still happens in classrooms to this day. Upon reading your post, I had a flashback of an experience of being humiliated in front of the class during my last year in high school. I wrote and posted a poem about that event: http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt11661.html. It is called: From My Little Black Book.

There must be somebody around that this teacher could be reported and apprehended for such behavior. There is no excuse. Your classmates were your witnesses and I'm sure many were appaled at your teacher's actions.

Get those bullies exposed and then see who comes up with egg on their faces :wink:


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21 Oct 2007, 8:41 am

This teacher sounds terrible. If your school has some type of program for those with disabilities, I think you should try to make use of it. I understand your not wanting to be labeled as "disabled," but what your professor made you do really was cruel. You obviously did the assignment, and you did not have a problem with it being read aloud. Asking to have someone else read it is not out of line. I think you can fulfill your requirements for the class, and be challenged by the class if you are given just a small accomodation. I'm really sorry that happened to you!



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21 Oct 2007, 8:59 am

I am a member of the special populations help in college. They wrote him a detailed letter at the beginning of the semester. Because he has a doctorate, he has the assumption he knows all there is to know and needs no further information. He was very cruel. I don't ever want to go to class again; not just his, but any of them. How will I know what they will do to me next? It seems like the older I get, the worse this gets. There are times I want to give up and lock myself away. However, my children need me to fight for them. Some of them are autistic too. They are misunderstood and mistreated a lot. Their meltdowns are considered "spoiled" or just wanting "attention". I hate that one. Especially for my 4 year old, that is the LAST thing they want is more people around. That is the last thing I want. The teacher complained that I just wanted special treatment. Were I in a wheelchair, would I be allowed a ramp or is that special treatment. I would have read it but why can't I do it sitting in the front of the room rather than standing and facing everyone. He even lectured me for rushing it. Duh!


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21 Oct 2007, 6:23 pm

This isn't ignorance or arrogance. It's just plain meanness. This is the behavior of someone who gets enjoyment out of knocking others done. He's just a jerk. Hope it works out for you.