Tired of Support Groups!

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Ah aims tu pleaz!

Support groups can be good and bad.

The good is that you meet people with similar struggles for emotional and intellectual support. There is comfort in knowing you are not alone.

The bad is that many groups turn into pity parties, where the losers just suck everyone else down with them.

You want a group that supports, comforts and encourages, not one that feeds off your problems as a vindication of why they too are not moving on with life.

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I believe most support groups were designed largely around NT people. I personally have cannot relate to anybody in support group settings I have been in. They require a certian degree of empathy that I lack. I always walk away from them, with a I can't learn anything from these people because I cannot relate at all. My partner wanted me to go to some related to things I do, but once he well understood better how I process and learn things, he realized he had to back off. Support groups by in large are a waste of my time.

Btw I am not talking about aspie groups, here in dc we have one which is pretty big. It kind of serves it seems as a way to discuss life skills and a way to be social. Most the girls, like myself have pdd-nos or nld.

Also remember not everybody on the spectrum is in science or engineering. Everybody on the spectrum finds their own niche according to their interests. Some are able to make it into a profession, others do not.

I have never been to regular support groups except the AB/DL gatherings. I don't see it as a support group because its not where we all get together and talk about our issues.

I go to the aspie support groups and they are structured. Each person has a turn to talk. I feel I fit right in and I feel different there than I do with regular people. One time in one of them where everyone was talking and having their own visits and I felt a little overwhelmed inside but dealt with it. I realized I liked structure ones better. Sure if I was talking to one person, then the free thing wouldn't be a problem for me because I am also part of it than just sitting by myself and everyone is talking and I have no one to talk to.

Precisely how are those Aspie groups different? The only one that I ever have been exposed to, had me just about running away screaming! Those nasty affect flattened pansies plainly lacked so much as an iota of human sympathy or interest, but where determined to fake it until we make it, via interminable ritual of endless banal small talk and reciprocal marshmallow throwing! And naturally, everything substantive or critical was ruled out of bounds. If I never see another bogus stifling support group, it will be too soon!

Reduced to emoticon? How efficient! A real time saver.

Indeed?

Authentic digression?

But seriously, authenticity is indeed all to easily bandied about. It's harder to really define whatever is truly of essence.