Is there someone who stays only at home?

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02 Nov 2007, 7:33 pm

I prefer to stay at home because the idea of having some sort of obligation to go out somewhere horrifies me (case in point: "friends"). That said, I don't mind going out when I need to, such as to church or the doctor, or helping a family member with grocery shopping.

Already tried to do the school thing and gave up after my third failed attempt at attending college (I didn't know about my ASD diagnosis at the time, and was really only going for the internet access, not to learn). Currently I'm unemployed and recieve absolutely no income whatsoever, even though I really should be on a disability pension because I simply cannot function in the NT world of workplaces; my comorbid anxiety disorder is so bad that I cannot bring myself to go anywhere near those places that help people find employment, not that I ever want to take part in something I know will not be worth the money it pays.



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03 Nov 2007, 12:32 pm

Dear fellows, thank you a lot for your replies!! !! !! !! ! Really, it is very important for me to know that. I asked you, because I´m in situation that I´m only at home and go out only to doctors and teachers to examine me. I do my studies through the Internet. I don´t want any friends - except from you, guys :lol: But don´t be angry at me - only online (good jawcracker, isn't it :D ). My every attempt to find friend failed at the moment I met them. I can´t get on with them. In our country, there are some Aspies, but not so many are diagnosed. There aren´t almost any schools for them and anything. Believe me, I´ve shocked everyone when my mother told them what has happened! They couldn´t understand it. How is it possible? You can´t be with people? But they are everywhere! What are you going to do??? And so on... I´m so glad that there is someone who really understands me at last and moreover, is in similar situation. Once again - thank you all for your responses!



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03 Nov 2007, 1:59 pm

Lumen wrote:
Dear fellows, thank you a lot for your replies!! !! !! !! ! Really, it is very important for me to know that. I asked you, because I´m in situation that I´m only at home and go out only to doctors and teachers to examine me.


You're welcome :D For many years I was sure I was the only person living like that (well, maybe not the only one, I'm exagerating a bit here, after all freaks are not as rare as those who suffer from Momo syndrome or progeria for example, but even if others like me existed somewhere, they were too far from me and I didn't have any chance to meet them). I have never met anybody who could be suspected by me of having the same condition in person and even despite the fact I discovered AS four years ago, all this thing was presented this way in the sources available that I thought it couldn't include me.



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03 Nov 2007, 4:26 pm

Yes I stay at home all the time unless I'm working. I don't like being out in public at all. At home I can focus exclusively on music, and I hate being interupted.
Playing gigs is different somehow. I don't mind that so much.
I've fitted out my music room so that my band has to come to my house to rehearse. It's much better for me that way, because I hate going anywhere for rehearsals, unless I'm getting paid and then I have to go. The only place I can really concentrate and feel completely comfortable is in my music room.


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03 Nov 2007, 10:33 pm

let me tell you i am extremly house jelouse! this means i get upset if anyone stays home from work or school because then i cant talk to myself and act a fool without being so self coinsious :D


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06 Nov 2007, 8:32 pm

All throughout high school, I basically stayed only at home. :) I've had spells where I went out to the mall, and in grade 7 to dances with my friends from elementary school, but mostly I jsut stayed at home. :)



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06 Nov 2007, 8:41 pm

I went out a lot more a few years ago, but I prefer my life now. I have worked at the library for five years and much prefer work to going out a lot. I'm not much of a night person, since I tend to go to bed around 8 or 9 p.m. I am comfortable with the life I have been living for the last five years.



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06 Nov 2007, 9:36 pm

There is little out there for me. I go out, hit the post office, buy some paper, food, gas, and back home.
I sell on the Internet, most things are delivered by post or UPS. No newspaper, TV, I do not care.

I have plenty of time for ice age animals, quirky aspies, and a world network of folks I like.

My last tank of gas lasted three months. Two miles a day.

I have a plan of becoming a hermit. There is no reason for me to live in a city.

I avoid where I live, but when there was nothing, I went walking. I love the earth, animals, plants, just not people.

I have rarely met a person who did not make my life worse for meeting them.

The Internet has changed that, information, real people behind it, buy and sell anything, and never have to meet them.

As it is subject directed, I do not have to deal with a whole human to get the part I want.

It is as if all of the demanding social life was replaced by the filing system for books.

I found a place with free delivery for Chinese food, a block from the post office.

I am free.



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10 Nov 2007, 4:49 am

I mostly stay at home. It's my comfort zone.

I did used to go to conventions once a year, but I eventually got tired of them exhausting me. Does anyone else find that when they "go out", they get overstimulated and exhausted? At the store the other day, I felt pretty beaten up because it felt like everything had this flag on it, too much noise, like I had antennae on my head and was being bombarded with too much information.

Home is nice and quiet.



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10 Nov 2007, 4:58 am

I'm home 24 hours a day, 6 days a week.

I only leave to go to the library or the store, even then my father takes me because I can't drive.


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10 Nov 2007, 10:34 pm

I have a love-hate relationship with shopping.
I like to go to stores and look at everything, but I usually only buy things I need. When I see something I like but don't need, I will stand in front of it for ages, mentally listing all the pros and cons of buying it. Sometimes I will pick it up, put it down somewhere else in the store, and then change my mind again and go get another one. :lol:
Eventually all the sights and sounds and bright lights and PEOPLE and decisions wear me out and I get a migraine. Then I go home and sleep for 2-3 hours.



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10 Nov 2007, 11:36 pm

I'm always at home, or at my nanna's.

I can't go out like NT teenagers.



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10 Nov 2007, 11:53 pm

Pretty much.

Obviously, I have to maintain a minimum level of social activity like going to school, walking to the avenue to get a coffee, etc., but I do spend much time at home.

Though I love being outside; sipping a coffee on the porch or taking a walk in the park, it's people and society I would rather not interact with.



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11 Nov 2007, 9:50 pm

Most of the time I stay home. I'm on disability, so I receive a little money each month to help with bills, and I sell things online to make up for the difference.

For me, this is how I stay happy. For others, my lifestyle is seen as wrong, incomplete, or something along those lines.

Sometimes I'm okay going out as long as I'm not in a highly populated area for long, or required to actually socialize/be with people I know.

Being out in nature, alone, is wonderful.


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11 Nov 2007, 9:53 pm

I am quite the opposite.

I like being out of the house (or in my case, dorm). I hate being cooped up at home.

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