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08 Nov 2007, 10:33 pm

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Fact is, I rarely understand songs in English either unless I've read the lyrics, so it makes little difference to me!


I have that same problem! I just had my hearing tested again about 5 years ago, convinced that I MUST have a hearing problem. It turned out normal (again) and I couldn't figure out how that could be when I feel like I'm half deaf when I'm talking to people.

Now I know what the problem is! *wipes forehead*


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08 Nov 2007, 10:48 pm

The more I browse this forum the more I am convinced that I have Asperger's. I too have been scolded by friends for "not listening", and I cannot understand even the simplest of song lyrics unless I Google them. I used to think Spandau Ballet's True was in Spanish or something, I cannot help but hear "This ain't a sceney" everytime I listen to that FOB song and I mistook the chorus of Snow Patrol's Hands Open as "It's not as easy as willing it all to be right, lotta people ain't hoping it's right, I wanna hear you laugh like you're reeling me in..."... WTF?


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08 Nov 2007, 11:10 pm

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Same here. I used to get scolded as a kid for saying "Huh?" and then answering them before they could repeat themselves. It was like the words needed to bounce around in my head for a second and sort themselves out before I realized what someone had just said. And sometimes I can't understand them at all. Especially if someone is facing away from me when they're speaking, or doesn't have a very expressive voice. I can almost never understand song lyrics either.


Ditto here to everything you said. Wow, I'm so glad I'm not totally out there with this!


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09 Nov 2007, 10:25 pm

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this is a problem for me too. if i am in someplace with a lot of competing noises or competing conversations i just go into my own world where i don't hear much of anything at all. and if someone tries to talk to me, i rarely understand what they are saying so i usually just end up smiling and shrugging.


I am 100% the same. You can imagine this complicates life immensely (especially the work world where I need to hear instructions...)



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09 Nov 2007, 10:43 pm

I SO have that too. If I'm in the back seat of a car, there is no way on earth I will ever understand what the people in front are saying, except for the moment or 2 they turn around enough for me to see their mouths. I can't read lips but somehow seeing the words form helps sort out the noise a little. The worst was when I was sitting in a lecture and the people in the row behind me started whispering with each other - the lecturer was talking 5x as loud as them but I could not make out a single word he said.

I also find myself leaning close to try to hear what people are saying which gets me in trouble - they tend to think I'm hitting on them!

I'll ask people to speak up or repeat themselves a couple times and then they get irritated with me for doing so - they would never get irritated with a blind person for stumbling over something, but apparently being half-deaf in effect, and asking them to make the tiniest effort to help me understand is an affront. Whatever.

But I do hear - I hear everything. It's just all too much and I can't sort out what I want to hear from the cacophany.



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09 Nov 2007, 11:25 pm

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Same here. I used to get scolded as a kid for saying "Huh?" and then answering them before they could repeat themselves. It was like the words needed to bounce around in my head for a second and sort themselves out before I realized what someone had just said. And sometimes I can't understand them at all. Especially if someone is facing away from me when they're speaking, or doesn't have a very expressive voice. I can almost never understand song lyrics either.

I think it's funny when people ask me how I can listen to foreign music all the time, since I don't know what they're saying. Fact is, I rarely understand songs in English either unless I've read the lyrics, so it makes little difference to me!


OK, ANOTHER wierd thing. Maybe we ARE from another planet, etc... 8O I was going to relate these SAME things! Some days it seems like I NEVER just answer. It is like I ask the people to repeat and often, before I even finish asking them to repeat, I answer them!! !! Some times, I just GIVE UP! Sometimes I do the same thing Seinfeld did with the "low talker". :cry: As for song problems? I am often the same way.

Of course, I should add that domestic and real english accents may not be a problem on old style music, or even some rock and roll, etc... This IS interesting though. In denmark, I understood some danish fine, and other danish was hard to understand. My uncle said that was the accent. With German, I STILL have some trouble with some of Nenas music. That is odd, since most of it is actually pretty clear. Some germans have said her voice is clear as glass.



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10 Nov 2007, 12:09 am

Maybe it is something different, but sometimes when people are talking to me I zone out, and don't hear what they say. This seems to happen often, and is embarrassing when I have to always ask people to repeat what they said because I had a moment when I just didn't pay attention. Is that the same as APD?



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10 Nov 2007, 12:27 am

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Maybe it is something different, but sometimes when people are talking to me I zone out, and don't hear what they say. This seems to happen often, and is embarrassing when I have to always ask people to repeat what they said because I had a moment when I just didn't pay attention. Is that the same as APD?


I know what you are talking about, and I do that also, but I think APD is basically almost like you replay the message and THEN understand it. You may react before you have really replayed it mentally and determined what was said.



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10 Nov 2007, 5:53 pm

I have no trouble listening to sounds or music, but conversation is hard sometimes, especially when it's noisy. Then I just slow down and have to think about each word a person is saying. By the time I understand it, they're already saying something else. If that qualifies as APD I guess I have it.



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10 Nov 2007, 6:24 pm

Wow I had no idea that was a disorder! I always watch people's mouth when they talk. My gf says that it seems that like I need to see where the sound is comming from for me to understand it. Made my heart flutter to read the chat, lol something else to tell my pshych on tuesday.

I speak read and write fluet english and spanish and yet sometimes I cant tell the difference between the two when I hear a song or someone talking and sometimes I look at people and wonder wtf they are saying. I cant take instructions in the room if there is music playing and someone else talking and forget it if there is construction on the road.

Though what pisses my gf off is the fact that this doesnt happen EVERY TIME sometimes we can have a long conversation in the car and its not as hard for me to stick with it. Then two days later she is telling me something and i completely forget it, i cant hear her, the wind down the highway seems way too loud than it was the day before. I cant explain to her way, why it varies she says it would be constant if it was a disorder it wouldnt change, no matter what.



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10 Nov 2007, 7:09 pm

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Wow I had no idea that was a disorder! I always watch people's mouth when they talk. My gf says that it seems that like I need to see where the sound is comming from for me to understand it. Made my heart flutter to read the chat, lol something else to tell my pshych on tuesday.

I speak read and write fluet english and spanish and yet sometimes I cant tell the difference between the two when I hear a song or someone talking and sometimes I look at people and wonder wtf they are saying. I cant take instructions in the room if there is music playing and someone else talking and forget it if there is construction on the road.

Though what pisses my gf off is the fact that this doesnt happen EVERY TIME sometimes we can have a long conversation in the car and its not as hard for me to stick with it. Then two days later she is telling me something and i completely forget it, i cant hear her, the wind down the highway seems way too loud than it was the day before. I cant explain to her way, why it varies she says it would be constant if it was a disorder it wouldnt change, no matter what.


TELL ME ABOUT IT! This is one aspect that got WORSE for me! At least it deosn't seem to be progressive. But how do you think I feel? I would have been FAR better in german earlier if I easily understood spoken sentences. I thought it was simply because I didn't hear it enough(Someone even once said that NORMAL people need to hear a word like 500 times to properly isolate it. When I was a kid, it seemed to usually take ONE hearing!), and NOW I wonder if autism played a part.



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10 Nov 2007, 7:40 pm

I do not watch television anymore because it enrapts me, the noise combined with the pictures. I have gotten in the habit to say yeah and nod alot as a response to things not knowing wtf, then people get mad when I have no idea what the plan was and ask.



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10 Nov 2007, 8:05 pm

I'm starting to think this is more than just APD. I think it might even be related to the processing issues that come with Asperger's and Autism. I remember not too long ago seeing a tv show, about the science of sports and whatnot, and in one segment, they were testing to see if a particular football player (I don't recall the name) could react faster than a bolt of lightning. Well, the testing proved he could (something like .15 seconds to get off the line), and then they went so far as to explain how he could do that, while the defense took so much longer to respond. He was responding to the auditory stimulus of the ball being hiked, while the others were responding to the visual stimulus of people moving, which (at least in NT's) takes considerably longer to process.

I don't know about the rest of you, but I'm able to process visual information pretty much instantly, while it takes considerably longer to process auditory input. I believe this is because I tend to think in terms of sensory input (pictures, sounds, sensations, etc) instead of words the way I understand most people do.

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Same here. I used to get scolded as a kid for saying "Huh?" and then answering them before they could repeat themselves. It was like the words needed to bounce around in my head for a second and sort themselves out before I realized what someone had just said. And sometimes I can't understand them at all.


Case in point. I'm like this too.



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10 Nov 2007, 8:40 pm

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I do not watch television anymore because it enrapts me, the noise combined with the pictures. I have gotten in the habit to say yeah and nod alot as a response to things not knowing wtf, then people get mad when I have no idea what the plan was and ask.


Well, with the seinfeld episode I spoke of , the "low talker" said GYTYUJWKJWKWJKJ HSJKS GJHDK GFHHJD GHJKK... and Seinfeld said "ok...". He was shoked to find that she asked him to wear one of her stupid "pirate shirts" on a talk show. And YEP, I have done similar things. 8-(

Soopervilin,

I can relate. I can process words noticably slowly. It varies, and on a good day I may even seem quick. ALSO, I can react faster than respond, if you know what I mean. But most of my actions are controlled in a way that isn't really visual or verbal.



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10 Nov 2007, 10:36 pm

my mom has APD,and her sister has too.
if more than one person speak at the same time ,her can not understand anyone,
when she watch tv ,she like change volume to very big,
and when she watch tv,she will not hear other sounds ,even some big sound such as someone has come in home or out home.
i also has APD,when i go to a crown street, i will sensory over i can stand,that will make me very uncomfortable ,i like stay at a quiet place.
if someone speak to me ,i will not do any thing at the sametime


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11 Nov 2007, 1:23 am

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This is another one of those "AH HA!" moments for me. Yes, I have the same problems! God I am so glad that I found this website!


Ditto.

Here is an example of what I will do...

My mother will be talking to me while I am putting on my shoes...I can hear her, there is no background noise and she is sitting opposite me. I will be looking down so can't see her. But for some reason I can hear the words, but they really don't make any sense unless I look at her mouth to see what she is saying.
I didn't think this was actually a disorder. I haven't been diagnosed with APD.


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