How would you behave in this situation?

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Probably #3
it's not worth the discomfort, and I don't like to travel

Shop over seeing your friends? Are they really your friends if you would rather go shopping? How about not bother to go--- it IS optional, and then you won't be there to offend your friends by not spending time with them. Besides--- if it's a work trip, you probably won't end up having time to shop and dine, either. Save the trip for when you want to see them.
Unless you like your work alot and WANT to go. If your friends are true friends, they should understand that your job is important and you might not be able to see them but that there will be other times.

2, what they don't know about they can't scold me about.

I was in a sort of similar situation once, but it wasn't really a friend, just an acquaintance. if I had been longer in the place, i would have gotten in touch and met for lunch or something, since it was just one day (and there were other things i really wanted to do) i never said anything.

another vote for 5.

you're on a schedule, not set by you. Who can blame you for the limited amount of time you have? If they're real friends, they'll understand.

you should have some advance notice of the trip (or the ticket prices would eat you alive... Contact them before you leave, and you can work something up.

If your schedules don't mesh, then it's circumstance, not you. They'll feel better knowing you tried, and will probably feel a little guilty themselves...as I see it.

Which option is 5??

4.

What is shopping?

You don't have to eat at all, as it's only a four day trip.

I vote for two. Keeping secrets from friends is a good way to lose them. Besides, if you email them maybe you can find out a way to spend time with them. Like maybe they could show you the best places to shop, or go dining with you.

I agree with Goche.

I see my family members over and over again choose option 2. Then their friends, invariably, find out the secret. So the friends don't tell them that they know the secret. Instead, they do little acts of revenge. My relatives, in turn, don't know why they're being hurt like this (they don't know the friends are angry and taking revenge) so they get offended and feign everything's fine but do a few little acts of revenge themselves too. And so the friendships end up being phony and only superficially caring. Then, after some years, they whine and wonder why the relationship has turned so cold and uncaring. But forever, they still think their little secrets were never discovered. Disgusting (if you ask my opinion). This is what they call being civilized, and my honesty is what they call blunt, weird, antisocial. Social skills is sh*****g on everyone and covering it with phoniness.

well said, Greentea, sums it all up really. 'sh*****g on people and covering it up with phoniness' I love that! It's so true.