Emotional life of an Asperger

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I think that wanting this precise common interest with a girl is because he is insecure other avenues of communication. It's understandable but it's not realistic.

I don't think the OP necessarily sounds elitist. I don't think there's anything wrong with choosing your friends/partners based on their interests or knowledge. I think it's practical, if you only like to talk about your obsession(s).

My boyfriend and I are both like that but with music instead of math (him moreso than myself). We don't look down on people who don't share our interests. But since our social interactions (and our lives in general) revolve around our interests, we only want to socialize with people who share them, preferably people who know things about music that we don't know so that we can learn from them. I don't think that either of us really knows how to interact with someone who doesn't share any of our interests.

Actually, music isn't the only interest we take into account. He also likes cars and toys, while I like biology. He has friends with whom he talks about cars and I have friends with whom I talk about animals, medicine, and neuroscience.

I had thought that this was an aspie thing, but judging from other people's responses, it looks like it might not be that common.

Frankly, most guys pick a woman for her beauty, and intellect be damned. They tend to prefer someone "out-of-his league."

I see no reason why this poster is any different from those men, except that he is basing it on intellect rather than beauty. I think that's awesome!

I'm worried that given the fact that women are sort of discouraged from math/science that you may not find your goddess, but I'm sure there are many suitable matches for you that have been overlooked by the traditional NT men chasing traditional beauty. Good luck, poster!

I think you are being unrealistic. Although your conversation starts out okay, by question 3 you are just sounding silly. First of all, if a girl is that interested in Math, she's not going to care one bit about you or your Math ability. What are you actually envisioning here?

I'm a dummy when it comes to Math, but the obscene picture of you two whispering hot calculus equations into each other's ears and getting each other off comes to mind. When I stop laughing over that picture, I'll be able to respond less sarcastically.

You start with common interests. Then there has to be a kind of attraction. Are you assuming that some girl is going to trip all over you and strip because you have a big fat math book in your hands? About the only thing you do have correct here is that it is inevitable that you will date a woman much smarter than yourself and probably not even know it. Women tend to date down in that respect.

Then again maybe you should apply for Beauty and the Geek. Oh, wait, you are too intellectually superior for that.

I'm equating your chances of getting past question 1 to the chances of Hell becoming a Frigidaire dealership until you change your attitude.

Oh baby, tell me again about multi-variable calculus.

I'll try to keep all conversations I would possibly have about math at a level of knowledge both of us can understand

I guess love to you is different than what it is to others. Some aspies don't even have romantic interest.

I'll bite.

What does math have to do with "emotional life?"

It sounds to me like you want the security of equation, a proof of her commitment, before you will allow her into your life.

Let me tell ya, even if you find someone who qualifies, you are overlooking a whole lot of variables she's going to bring with her. Do you enjoy chaos theory?

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If you were a girl or I were a girl, I'd date you without hesitation. I regret to inform you that due to both of us being the same sex and due to both of us being heterosexual, that we are incompatible.

Okay, A350XWB, I believe you're real now.

And you guys are right, he comes up with some pretty sweet lines.

I would say that if you could find someone who was really good at math, better than you are, and has everything you wanted, they would most likely be too much in love with math to be in love with anyone else.

Saying that they are pretty probably wouldn't affect them much either. They're too busy concentrating on solving a math problem than trying to be impressed by your own words.

"Sure I'll help you study for the test. Why don't you get your sorority friend and we can do some triple integration." Bowchickabowow! Yes ladies, I am THAT smooth.

A350XWB: If your pickup lines work, it confirms my longstanding suspicion that Canadians are in fact the greatest people on the planet.