Growing up, were you jealous of NT siblings?

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I have a younger sister who is NT and quite social. I was never jealous of her because I never really wanted to be like her. Especially in later years, I always felt her life was kind of shallow and superficial (perhaps not a fair judgment, but it's how I felt.) Sometimes I did feel a little bad that she had so many friends while I had very few or none, but mostly I felt okay about my life. I never wanted to be a social, super-involved person. I was content to be a loner and to engage in my interests by myself. I guess I sometimes did feel a little badly because I felt like the "problem" child. However, recently she's been more of a "problem" than I am, so the score has evened a bit.

My younger sis is NT but she's so weird sometimes it makes you wonder...

She has always had the great friends that hang out with her and my parents always seemed to give her special treatment.

I decided I wanted to try a beauty pagent when I was like....5? something like that.

Well, my mom got my sister in it too. She worked it out so that my sis got into the finals in the area(which she won for her age group)
my sis got the beauty photos in case she happened to go to state.

My sister got the hermit crabs she wanted.

The girls in the girl scout troop ignored me on the trip we took to new orleans. One girl even had the nerve to tell me not to stress out about it and just enjoy myself. My response? How can I enjoy myself if I don't have anyone to enjoy it with?

When I was in 7th grade I asked my parents about a trip to D.C. and new york that the "travel club" in middle school did. They didn't even go to the parents meeting for it.

Then when my sister got into 7th grade and asked about it, they did everything they could to help her.

The people that I hang out with are all older. Most are family friends. All the women in the group except one baby me. Absolutely noone respects my opinions.

There are two girls my age whos fathers are in this group. They are treated with respect.....theyr daddies bought there cars, pay the insurance on them, gas, maintenance, cell phones and cell bills, helped pay for college, help pay for RENT in college....

One girl hardly has enough money for college or college miscellaneous (food, medicine, toiletries etc.) because she won't stop shopping at the effing malls for the "nice" clothes she just has to have (for one example).

Last night one of my roomates (who is in this group also) was talking about how some "black gentleman" robbed the store he works at and "that just goes to show how black people...blahblahblah". And I kept telling him that not all black people are like that, what I meant was that you can't be all inclusive in that assesment. His response was "your just too young to understand" and then walked to his room. I shouted out "your just too old to think any differently"

My mom seemed to favor my younger sister, and my dad my younger brother. It suxx0d. At least I'm moved out now.

my brother (younger, and only) is 'hyper' as we used to say. Mebbe HD, AD, or some combination. He was so bad for getting in trouble that I had a free ride with the parental units...

Didn't hurt any, but we weren't all that close...not hostile, just not close...

A lot of issues I had as a kid, I used to chalk up to being adopted. But my self-dx as Aspie really offers an alternate explanation. Being adopted prolly just exacerbated things.

I am the oldest, and have a younger brother (also adopted). Our parents definitely favored him, partly because he was younger (parents often are easier on the second child than the first) and he was a boy (I'm female). But also because he had a mild case of Tourettes, and although he didn't have grand mal seizures or anything and could play with other kids, make friends, and was a jock in jr and sr high, my mother doted on him and spoiled him rotten because "he's a sick little boy." I would even get punished sometimes for things HE did.

Meanwhile, they had high expectations for me but were never satisfied - I was definitely NOT the precious little princess my mother hoped she was getting from the agency. I was a tomboy and an early reader and very precocious, asked too many questions, exhausted her with my chattiness on certain subjects, my love of nature and bugs and other critters, and my emotional "neediness" (I sensed her recoiling from me and was hurt by it), said I thought rules were "for other people," etc.

In college, my dad would mail me newspaper clippings of my brother throwing a winning pitch at a ballgame, but he (dad) never found the time to visit me or call, or find anything praiseworthy to say about me (that made it back to my ears, anyway). I'm in my late 30s now and have not heard from my "dad" in 3-4 years now. I guess I'm too much trouble, and he found replacement step-daughters.

So, yes, I was extremely jealous of my mostly-NT, average-intelligence brother. I also tormented him when we were very young - for which I have deeply apologized to him for, repeatedly. Of course he claims he doesn't remember. But I do.

I don't have any biological siblings...I used to however, have two NT step sisters.

One of them was two years younger than me, the other one, 6 years younger than me.

I was jelous of both of them.

The oldest one, would always been talking to her friends on the phone, going out with friends etc. I was even jelous of when she had an arguement with a "true friend"...as I don't know what that is like, as I have never had a true real life friend.

The youngest one had such a care free world. She would laugh and play all day, having fun. I remembered my childhood, I was lonely and felt isolated. I resented her greatly for this, I infact at one stage wish she were dead. I know, thats wrong to wish that on anyone, let alone your step sister...but I was so angry that she had all that I never got to experience.

I never knew about AS at that stage, but I was still jelous of them because I thought that they were "normal" and I were not.

I was extremely jealous of my younger sister as a child because she always had people to enjoy her company with. She was so sociable and I could never keep up in those situations. The result? I was always alone to stew in my funk and she was going out to enjoy herself. I felt like I was being left behind and I resented her for it.

Both my siblings have tons of friends, and are quite popular and attractive. I'm attractive (that sounds arrogant I know) but I don't have 6 packs like they do, or their style sense, so it's not as obvious. I'm not as jealous of my sister, because she's one of those popular girls who has constant problems with bitchy "friends," and she's not that bright. I'd rather be intelligent and have a few close friends that are loyal, and no drama in my life, than have the ditzy but drama filled 'popular' life. I'm a lot more jealous of my brother, but he's just entering the teenage stages. He's very bright, maybe even more so than me, cute, funny, nice, popular, and athletic. He's going to outshine us both. At least my sister and I had different strengths and weaknesses.

Heh, my younger sister always seemed to be treated better then I did. I think since she was better behaved maby, that and my parents did not like my friends. I always felt like she got toys I did not growing up, she got to have people over when I did not and felt like my parents maby did more for her then me. Maby I am a little bias, but still, maby just a tiny bit she was treated better.

Yea, same here, except for me it's my older sister. Everyone naturally gravitates toward her; little kids, family members, boys. I need to figure out how to become more approachable, like her.

For me, it wasn't jealousy. It was more like a constant reminder and aggravation of being completely not like anyone in my family. I was always held up to them and asked why I couldn't just be like everyone else. They always introduced me as the weird sister. Actually, they still do introduce me as the weird sister. It's been a long road making everyone realise that I just don't hear their drummer and even if I did I'm too damned uncoordinated to dance to it.

My step sister and I are great friends now. When we were younger, it was always point and laugh at the weird kid. My real brother still does a lot of that. Point and laugh, poke a stick at the weird kid. His loss. Prolly why we never talk or really communicate in any way. He's too busy pointing sticks, still.

Well I suppose at times, though now that I have seen where being NT gets you. Not so much. Plus it was abit of an ego boost when his girlfriend had a thing for me (dont ask me why she did).

He has done some stupid things. Done stuff that has set back his life alot and in the long run made things harder. I honestly believe being aspie is what kept me from falling prey to such things.

Yes, I was... and I still am, kind of. My younger sister was - and is - all the things I want to be. It's like she's my opposite in every way, and I hate thinking about it.

There was a time that my sister was actually jealous of me, because I had an accent, and she didn't.

My younger brother is an NT, but he is pretty geeky and doesn't have many friends. I guess I rubbed off on him somewhat.

I didn't experience anything beyond the healthy jealousy, which I assume happens with everybody every now and then, but was never jealous of the fact that my sisters had better social skills, because I had reasonable social skills myself (believe it or not). I can say I was a different person back then.

Why be jealous of the things that make you less rational, make you less special and unique, and make you think like everyone else?

The only reason people treat us this way is because they don't value our rationality. They value things that are more illogical than the things I value.