How did you react to social challenges?

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I would say BDAC in chronological order from age 5-6. Had a rough time when I moved out-of-state for the first time at 11. Kids in Oakton, VA are dicks.

-Oz

Mostly escape, with some depression as well. Some arrogance, too, but not expressed outwardly. And imitation, but only to the extent that is necessary to interact with the NT world; I've always had a philosophical objection to trying to make myself just like everyone else.

One thing I don't like with his words: to me, it sounds like to help us, there's a chance that we'll be able to help "them". I can see where it appears to be a nice thing to do, to make this society a more comfortable place for us, but adding on the "marketable" skill thingy is treading waters of...debts, debts there to repay the same society that has "accepted" us (we haven't been accepted in many ways, nor will we).

Sometimes, I wish I was the next "Einstein" who develops the means to shatter the universe; is that giving them what they want?

I didn't listen to the interview but from your summary I do all four. However, I would like to point out that they are not reactions to being different but coping skills.

Up until I was in my early 20's, I definitely lived in a world of my own and that is how I usually coped with feeling "different". Depression started to kick in when I was in primary school and has been a pretty much constant companion ever since.

I also tried imitating other people but with very mixed success. I often wonder if it is really worth the bother when you just get thought of as being a try-hard. I also have some arrogance in the sense that I don't suffer fools or foolish opinions gladly and this has probably got a bit worse over the years. For some reason now, I can't fantasise very much at all - it seems too airy-fairy and impractical.

Depression when I was in my tween years. I'd go in the corner and sulk.

After that it was more of an isolation or sticking with one or two people. I was hardly noticed.

I started with imaginary worlds quite early when I started school. One of the first comments my parents got from the teacher was that I did not really take part in the lessons unless it was a topic of my very interest. Otherwise I was just staring out of the window, absent "in another world, but definitely not in the classroom" as my teacher put it

As a teenager I was lucky to be at the right school at the right time, there were plenty of "nerds" and "losers" besides me, I joined the electronic and computer clubs and was quite happy.
At around 17 one of the really cool and completely NTish guys happend to like me, i have no idea why, as I was so 100% different to him, nonetheless we happend to become friends and there I had my imitation period. I tried hard, harder, hardest to become like he was ... well, I wasn't too successful As school was over the friendship stopped more or less immediately and I returned being just myself, coping was hard enough, imitating was simply exhausting !

Arrogance now happend to grow in my early 30s, sometimes I feel bad about it, but hey, look out on some internet forums, or go out and listen what most people babble all day, it's hard to bear (does that sound arrogant ? ) .
That's what is so refreshing on WP, the incidence of interesting topics and inelligent people is so much higher than in any other place !

Depression was always there, to a higher or lesser degree, but it never was a really dominant factor in my life.

Edit and OT: UncleBeer - your avatar is so amazing, mesmerizing, beautiful, I can't stop watching it. Where did you get that from ?