Do You Suspect Your Parent(s) Have AS ?

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My mother is NT with a few AS traits. [Some common AS stims, not very good at making friends and sensitivities to some clothing].
My father, well he is the stereotypical undiagnosed aspie. I haven't seen him for a few years but when I did see him he was definately not NT. He hated crowds and avoided them like the plague. Had no friends at all. Did the same thing everyday for more than 5 years. No eye contact. He is very...flat, in his speech. My mother said that when she was in a relationship with him, he was very closed and didn't express affection very well.

My great grandmother was HFA. I didn't know her that well, though.

I'm positive my dad has it, but won't admit it.

I believe there are various members of my family that have various symtoms of AS.

I have tried to trace back to a great grandmother on my father's side.

I also believe my mother and sister have AS. They do things that when asked they cannot explain.?!

My mom is very Aspie-like...neither of my parents are exactly "NT"...but my mom seems to have more classic Aspie symptoms..

I think my dad has it. I should send him to a psychologist so we can find out.

I wonder if my mother might have it or she just has traits of it
Her symptoms:


-Dislike fluorescent lights, they give her headaches, they are bright
-Hates sunlight, it hurts her eyes too and blinds her
-Seems obsessed with gardening and decorating. She is always watching those shows
-Talks excessively. I was told talking a lot is an aspie trait. They either talk too much or don't talk enough.
-Literal. My dad says she is and I have noticed she takes my jokes so seriously because she takes them so personal.
-Is shy and she doesn't have lot of friends
-Didn't get her first boyfriend till she was almost out of high school so she was a little slow my shrink said when I was 17.
-Was very naive when she was young.
-I don't think she can read body language well because I can remember her saying so when I was 15. When I was a kid, when she be hugging me, I be trying to push her away and she didn't seem to get what I was doing because she kept hugging me and wouldn't stop till she wanted to.
-Sensitive to real loud sounds and other noises like the TV being on. She will say it's too loud even though it's not. I thought she had sensitive hearing but she doesn't or she would have heard those mosquito ringtones and my hearing is better than hers.
-Talked to herself a lot when I was little (is that even an aspie trait, it's been on the aspie quiz) but she seemed to have stopped
-Has troubles learning something she isn't interested in (aspie trait too?)
-Not good with small talk either
-Has her routines. Always has to read before she goes to sleep. Still does it even if she is real tired. She even has to stop at certain places as she goes by it but she is able to be flexible if she has to skip it.



My dad's traits:


-Talks real loud
-Doesn't seem to ready body language or get why someone is mad like he says about my mother when she gets upset for no reason because he is saying "Women are worthless" or "you're mother is tired" "She's cranky" when I asked him why is she mad and he said those things. He always said "I don't know" and then "She's tired."
-Is clumsy bumps into things sometimes and cruses, he will even bump into you too if you're in his way
-Obsessed with sports. Always has to watch then games when they are on, can't miss them or it upsets him. her even has to be home at a certain because of a game being on and when he goes on trips, he rather be at a sports bar to see the game or stay at his brother's house to watch the sports when he is here in Portland.
-Says inappropriate things because my mother is always saying he is being a jerk or he is being crude.
-Doesn't seem to care about fashion either. Wears the same type of clothes. Hardly wears anything nice but will on special occasions like to a party or to a wedding.
-Likes science fiction and is good with math (aspie stereotypes, never agreed they are aspie traits because anyone can be into sci-fi or be good with math)



Do my parents have AS? I dunno. I don't know enough about their childhood. But I do know they both had friends growing up. They're normal to me. Oh yeah my mother is honest too but not blunt. Both my parents don't seem to understand my feelings always because they didn't always give a s**t when I was having anxiety because they get mad at me and not care if my brother's having a party is too much for me.

I was interested in what my other family members could have had in my attempt to self-diagnose... one side of my family tends to have anxiety and psychotic issues while there's definitely some classic ADD going on in the other side (no sign of autism). Both my parents have relatives with more severe cases of whatever they have though

Nothing really gained in knowledge of myself, cause I still don't know what makes me what I am and am STILL trying to figure out I'm guessing though that mixing anxiety with ADD can cause someone to at least seem SOMEWHAT autistic.

Both of my sons are diagnosed AS. My older brother has it, for sure--such stereotypical behaviors going back to infancy. I have a cousin on my dad's side who was recently diagnosed--he is 19 or 20. Like I said, I think that probably my dad has it, and that my mother's behavior is also unusual. I would like your opinions--what does this sound like to you?

My father is a mechanical engineer--self-taught. He is now retired. To pass the time, he enjoys doing "artsy", creative things, so my sister got him a large paint-by-number for Christmas. He was talking to me about it and said, "I am wondering how the best way to go about painting it is? If I just do one color at a time, that would be too many little pieces all over the board. I don't like that. I think the best way is to measure it off into 1 X 3 inch squares, finish a square and then move on to the next one."

He tried doing counted cross-stitch once, but ruined a piece because he penciled off the pattern directions into a grid like that, put the directions in with his fabric and the graphite got all over his fabric.

My mother has a strange way of talking that can drive me nuts. She talks in lists. If I call and say I am ill, she will start with the "maybe its' a cold, maybe it's the flu, maybe it's the whooping cough, maybe it's pnuemonia" and on and on. Then will come the remedies. "Maybe you should try cough syrup, maybe tylenol, maybe this, maybe that.."

The other day we were talking and I mentioned that my son would some day like a job closer to home. She says, "Did he look in Wausau? Did he look in Appleton? Did he look in Eau Claire? Did he look in ...?"

She also repeats her final word quite often, as if it were a word she is not familiar with, but it is actually a common word. Example: "Did you try tea with honey honey honey?"

Both of my parents are extreme home bodies. They never liked any of our relatives, never liked having anyone over, never liked going to anyone else's house. They never went to get-togethers with neighbors or friends (my mother had no friends, my dad had one or two from his work). They seem fearful of the outside world and shake in their boots every time they watch the news. They are horrified that my nieces and nephews are traveling as part of their education to dangerous places like England and Italy.

As a kid, I always had the sense that my parents were strange. If I stayed overnight at a friend's house, my mom would grill me about what they were like, what we ate, etc. Then the next thing I knew, she was serving the same thing for supper that we had at my friend's house.

My dad has mostly always been non-verbal and off doing something by himself. My mom talks too much--usually about what's on TV because that's all she knows. She reads a lot, but only understands what she reads superficially. She thinks everybody feels about everything the same way she feels.

Opinions, please. Does this sound like Asperger's to you?

The more I study my mom and listen to the things her partner says, the more I'm beginning to suspect that my mother has a lot of AS traits. Maybe not enough for a diagnosis, but she certainly fits many of the criteria.

I suspect my Dad has it... but he seems to have learned to cope. It seems that most people who are unaware they have it are able to cope.

I'm pretty sure my mom just has traits, though. Not enough to make her have it, though. She's really isolated and doesn't talk to many people other than the family. She never makes an effort to meet new people or keep up with friends. But she's a nice lady, smart too, and she can be extremely emotional.

My father almost certainly had it, but he was born in 1917 and died in 1971 so there was no chance of a diagnosis. He had one friend that I remember, could not communicate properly, at times even with my mother.

My mother most likely has it, and she's quite aware of it. ^^ Though, it shows up in her much less obviously than it does in me.

I thought my dad might have had it. He had a brain hemorrhage when I was young, had a hole drilled in his skull. My mom said that the scar tissue that grew over the hole inside his head affected that area of the brain. So, I'm not sure whether he was AS or if his behavior was a result of scar tissue.

My mom is introverted, she could possibly have it.... But I doubt it.

i suspect that my mother has AS and my father possibly to.

I don't know. But my dad is likely not very NT. He's a mechanical wiz and has a lot of different licences, but when he's not holding a screwdriver, he doesn't seem to have any clue about anything. He just stampedes around distractedly (slight exageration).