Do you get jealous of people with better people skills?

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I used to get very jealous of people whose art was better than mine, but I believe that my skills are good enough now that I don't need to feel inferior anymore.

Thank you. I really enjoy finding big pictures which itself as a whole don't inspire me that much yet include one or more (very) small, interesting parts I can take out of context to live their own lives.

Your avatar is quite beautiful too.

People skills topic

I have noticed in my life that there is always at least one person I work with who has a sort of charismatic way that attracts people. It may or may not be superficial, insincere and opportunistic. I am soon able to discover whether or not this is the case. If the insincere and manipulative person with the so-called magnetic personality has his/her own radar that picks up that I have figured him/her out, my job is usually toast. It is difficult for me to hide my disdain for these phonies and power seekers. These workers generally have the power to influence other wimps ("sheeple") who suck up to them. I do not fit in. I have never played that game.

The rare person who is skilled with people in a sincere, genuine way is rare and these are the people whom I envy. This person is a joy to work with and they are as scarce as hens' teeth, which is to say, more rare than a needle in the proverbial haystack.

I can get jealous/envious but not usually over skills. If someone posses a skill to greater degree than I do I usually admire them and feel inspired to better myself.

Envy the skill? PERHAPS! The person? RARELY! MOST of the people with good "social skills" NEED them, and arent good otherwise.

Ooooo! So true! I have a "friend" (ha!) who's like this. Not the nicest person you'll meet, ignores her kids, is a rude tail-gating driver, even insulted me for even considering suicide when at my lowest point of depression... but she's such a socialite that she gets around, makes connections, and got several management jobs over the years - and recently got a job as office manager for the symphony. Yes, I'm jealous. She's only a slightly-above-average singer, can't spell worth beans or do basic addition (despite having been a TEACHER!) and is downright dumpy-looking, and yet she gets these great jobs because she can easily make friends and alliances.

Little wonder she loves the TV show "Survivor".

We both attended a self-improvement series which might have helped us both... some.... but in the beginning we were given nametags that depicted our personalities on our first day. She was "Master Manipulator" (so perfect, she denies it.) I was "Destined to Lose", which fit so accurately I wept.


I've taken to calling these socially-obsessed people, "Socialites". I'm going to have to be careful on this one... I can feel some irrational anger brewing over it.

I envy them, I cry, I accept it, I envy again, cry again, accept again...

I think I am really just fascinated with people who have great people skills. Its kind of like looking at someone who is a great acrobat.

Maybe a bit jealous on a barely subconscience level. I do feel intrigued, though.

That's EXACTLY how I feel. That's what I'm thinking inside of head as I sit there with a stupid smile plastered on my face. Usually, I get over it quite quickly, and am able to forget about it in a few hours, though. When I was younger I used to obsess over those sorts of things, but anymore I just shrug it off, and move on.

When I was younger, YES, I was very jealous. I studied these people from afar and wondered what it was that made them so "socially gifted". As I've gotten older (not that I'm old, per se), it's become more of a fascination.

Yes, I do get jealous of people being so good with social skills.

Space and SleepyDragon summed it quite well for me, it's almost hate and anger... but at the same time I realise it's not like they have done anything wrong, it just is. Oh well...

It's often out of pure frustration that the anger and jealousy come out. Especially after I have already spent years around these people, learning what people like in others, and I still feel like I am no further ahead.

sometimes i think what are they doing that i am not doing?. mostly i think bugger it. no point trying to guess what other peeps think when u can't read minds or cues.

Yes I do, and I wish I didn't. When I was in high school I remember even asking a moderately popular friend how she "did" that she did, i.e., being able to talk to people and having a normal amount of friends. Right now I envy a co-worker who always gets visitors to her desk while I don't (our department is kind of isolated upstairs, and we're both in separate offices). It's not that I'm not friendly to people, I just don't have the skills.

Though I don't begrudge people their skills, because they need them too, and I realize that everyone has to go through crap in their lives no matter what their social skills may be.