Any "adult" (over 18) still live with parents???

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I'm 22 year and still live with my father, although I have to support him finanically because he can't work (he has look after by himself a moderately ret*d 7 year old child and a totally normal 9 year old child).

I live with my folks too. It doesn't bother me much. I still do yard work, laudry, clean my room, well the room is sometimes a disaster area but at least it doesn't become a hazard.

I feel like I want to move out but I still am not confortable to do so. Feel down about it but hey.


Besides a lot of parents would like their children to stay with them all the time, and will always have a place for them to stay. It's like a way to keep the clan in place.
For some familes it is cultural in a way to have adult children still living with them. Or at least nearby.

Extended families closeby are still around in America and I am happy to be part of one myself.

I moved out of my parents' house when I was 20. For me, this was the right time, and I have coped pretty well with it. First I rented a room in someone's house. I was allowed to use the bathroom, kitchen, washing machine, etc. It meant that I got used to paying rent before I had my own flat and had to pay rent, utilities, etc. Now I am 24 I am moving back in with my parents for around 6 months, and I am worried how I will cope then.

I think everyone is different. I was not ready to move out at 18, and it sounds like you had some difficulties too. My husband is 28 and he would have had to stay with his parents if we hadn't met, as he cannot handle things like paying bills. He contributes financially, but he cannot handle the logistics of paying bills. I am more logical, but earn less money, so it works well for us.

I think that a lot of people end up staying with their parents until they are in their 30s.

I think it's becoming more and more common for college students to still live at home. I have met MANY people who still live with their parents and no one thinks them any less independent.

I have even heard of kids graduating from college and then going BACK home while they try to find a job and get on their feet.

I really don't think it's unusual anymore. Childhood is getting stretched out more and more and more.

Well in a split sense: the innocense is getting lost a lot younger but the financial self-sufficiency is taking much longer. Its all part of that wonderful transition of our contry (or at lest my country) changing it's emphasis from manufacturing and labor to service.

Yes, exactly, and I don't think it's any bad. Parents are able to invest more in their children, and this means supporting them longer. Kids become independent later, when they are better educated, and this allows them for a better start.


Forgive me, I have trouble understanding how such an issue would prevent someone from starting an independent life. Paying bills takes me approximately 30 minutes each month. Even if someone is unable to do handle it, the easy workaround would be to ask someone to come once a month and help with it (be it a parent, a sibling, or a friend). The amount of work is so little (especially since banks started offering online bill payments) that such a request would certainly be reasonable and would not cause much burden to the person who is helping. Another solution is to setup automatic payments - then no help would be needed after the initial set up.

When he went away to university, his parents had to have control of his bank accounts. He could not work out when a bill was going to come out, so he did not know if there was enough money to withdraw cash. His parents had to give him 'pocket money' so that he knew exactly how much he could spend. He could never get it together to organise the post that arrived, and his girlfriend at the time had to tell his parents how much he owed for certain bills.

He could live alone if he had regular support. He would need someone at least once a week to open his post and help him pay any bills. Setting up automatic payments would help, but he would still struggle to work out when they are going to be taken, and how much money was actually available after the bills were paid. He would need someone to have access to his bank records, so they could tell him how much money is spare. He'd also need help with filing important documents, like payslips, bank statements, and ID. Unless his parents were willing to do this, he would have no one else, and your parents will not be around forever.

At the moment he is responsible for only 1 regular bill per week - he pays into our joint account on pay day. From our joint account, I handle all the bills. He cannot even manage that, and I have to have access to his bank account in order to do this for him. I also have to keep his documents safe for him, as we needed proof of ID and income to take out a mortgage, and to open our joint bank account. We will need them again soon as we are moving house. He will not be able to do things like sending off his driving licence to get the address changed.

So while he does not live with his parents, he is still very much dependent as he cannot manage his finances at all.

I moved out age 19. Brother moved out age 25-ish. Other brother moved out age 30-ish.

Which is interestingly exactly inverse to how well we do in NT society.

I lived with my parents until I was 25. I wasn't in university. Most of the time I was either unemployed or working for minimum wage or doing short-term contract work. The first time I managed to hold onto a job for more than a year I ran to the bank and bought my mother's house (she got remarried and didn't need it). That was when I was 25. When I was 26 I sold the house and went back to school and lived in residence. After school was finished I boarded with people and didn't live completely alone until I was in my 30s.

I moved out at age 19. But I see my mother just about every single day and she helps me with a lot. I reside in my apartment independently, but I am not very independent. She lives 3.1 miles away.

Funny enough, I'm WAY better with budgetting my money than she is with hers. I've had to lend her a LOT of money since December. Prolly around $900 here and there. She still owes me $313.

I live with my Mom and I am 19. I would probably just about fall apart if I lived in a house/apartment by myself, and my personality is such that I often have a hard time getting along with people in close quarters....you either love me or hate me, and there's nothing anyone can do about it. I doubt I could find a roommate who would live with me for more than a month, unless they were paid a lot to do so So I'll probably live with my Mom until I get Married

i live at home and i'm 23. i very rarely leave the house and have no independence. i think you should move out if you get the opportunity

19 and I'm staying at home until I'm physically evicted!

18 and living at home, but want to move out as soon as i possibly can. i prefer my own space.

I currently live in a dorm with two other people. I love my parents but cannot stand being in the same house with them for more than two weeks While living with two others can have its problems sometimes I don't think living completely on my own is a good idea... I do sometimes enjoy someone popping in and saying "We're doing this and you're coming with us!!" Being alone for too long can be a little unhealthy for me.

Same here...actually even one week with my mom is stretching it.



I like it when people pop in like that too - problem is, they usually don't with me.