Could I have a child if I wanted to?

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I would worry about having children. Between my maternal age (43) and my seizure disorder, there are plenty of difficulties a child of mine could have. Cats are easier to take care of.

I have noticed a lot of consistency in Aspie-type mothers expressing a great deal of trouble dealing with motherhood in general.

I strongly suspect that it may be a very common thing for Aspie moms to have their "mothering wiring" broken in some way, in the same way that Aspies in general have their "social wiring" broken. The low-level mothing instincts seem to be there, but the process of how to handle those instincts and translate them into a satisfactory motherhood experience seems to be missing.

It makes me think very much of how Aspies tend to need to handle most or all social interaction on an intellectual level, where as "neurotypical" people handle such things at an intuitive level; the intuitive handling seems natural and low cost; the intellectual handling seems to require inordinate amounts of energy; pretty much every Aspie mom I know hovers constantly on the brink of utter exhaustion.

I seek neither to encourage or discourage; this is just something to consider, based on some observations I've made.

Good fortune,

- Icarus is a nest of broken wiring...

I have been thinking about this issue a lot. I had a dream where I gave birth to a child who had so many problems that doctors said he would never be able to do anything, and would only be useful as an experiment after he died, probably soon after birth. It was then I decided that no child of mine was ever going to be consigned to such a fate. I dreamed I showed the same child, many years later, who had done more than any doctor ever anticipated he would, to the doctor who predicted an early death, and said, "So what do you think of Roger?" I hope that, if I do have a child, he or she will be in good health, but I will never give up on any child of mine, if I do have one.

I have AS.

My daughter has AS.

She's the best thing that ever happened to me, and the great joy of my life.

I think that aspies having aspie kids would be a great thing. I actually really like being autistic and like other autistics. And if someone has to be an aspie, wouldn't they be better off with an autistic parent than an NT parent who has the same problems understanding the child as the rest of the world. I'm looking forward to the possibility of an aspie mini-me (lol). As much difficulty as AS may bring, I think that it would be beyond phenomenal.

P.S. I use "aspie" and "autistic" interchangeably.

My husband and I are both on the spectrum, myself more Asperger's and he more autistic. Both of our children have been diagnosed autistic; our daughter is moderate with mostly sensory issues and our son is moderate with mostly speech and communication issues, moderate sensory. Our daughter is very high-functioning. Would I hesitate for a second if I had it to do all over again? No way. My kids are awesome.

Autie kids rock.. i agree... keep the breeding going... you guys must breed for me since i cannot help extend the autie sensation... for the neuro degenerative disease i have is likely genetic defect and i also am asexual... so that does not help

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It depends who the father is. It seems that low functioning autism is more likely to appear if it's the child of two aspies. But if the father is pretty NT I don't think there will be much risk, or at least not as much.