Speaking vs Writing

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I find that my thoughts wander and jump around so much that when I try to communicate by speaking it simply reflects the jumbled thought process of my mind.

Writing allows me to put all of my thoughts and ideas down on paper in a jumbled mess and then rearrange them in a fashion that makes logical sense to people other than myself.

I earned my business degree which required tons of formal speeches. I began to get very good at these speeches because I would prepare so much that before hand I would have written everything out and organized what I was going to say, and then memorized all that information. Impromptu speeches are still an impossibility for me.

I prefer writing to speaking:

I put my thoughts into the word processor.
I press the button that says puree.
My thoughts come out smooth and organized on paper.

It is kind of gross when I just chew on my thoughts and spit them out of my mouth.

Exactly! Also my thoughts are so much faster than my speech so my brain ends up like 5 steps ahead by the time I'm in the middle of saying something, and I get lost trying to go back to where my mouth is. And if I ramble on, I can edit out half of what I wrote.

I've been told that I write very well when I write cards and such. My theory on that is that when I speak sentimental thoughts, I feel very, very awkward, so I stumble over the words and don't give off the proper non-verbal cues. But when someone is reading something I wrote, they do so knowing there are no non-verbal cues - it's all in the words, which I can do. To say something sappy and not have the proper facial expressions comes off as insincere, whereas written, it comes across as more genuine.

I'm much more coherent when I'm writing than when I'm speaking. I sometimes have trouble remembering the right word for things when I'm speaking (it happens when I'm writing, too, but much less frequently), and I stutter when I'm stressed.

When am able to speak,it's mainly echolilia,brain seems to be able to retrieve echolilia well,but not full language.
Am also slow with thinking what to say on posts etc,but can actually 'speak' like everyone else.
Am can use makaton instantly without having to think like it's 'normal' language,and am have a major strength in writing,have been told to write a book but am too lazy for that.
in terms of writing,am use laptop,a PDA or a mobile phone [which isn't so mobile anymore cause it powers off unless it's permenantly plugged into socket] to communicate when non verbal,being able to write like this is a big help.

Am wonder whether executive dysfunction has anything to do with the verbal problem that many aspies and auties have?

I know this isn't exactly on topic, but KingdomOfRats, do you mean that your phone originally could work without the socket, and later couldn't? If so, it may be that the battery needs replacing. You should be able to get it checked out and get a replacement battery from any nearby phone store.

thanks tantopat,
am hoping the apple iphone comes out on non contract soon to get that one instead-this phone is a four/five year old motorola Razr,it's so bad it's taped together,doesn't seem worth spending anymore on it?