Using people's first name

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I used to have a problem calling people by first names when I was younger. However, I think it was, at least in part, a result of my feelings of inferiority from years of being bullied. In a sense, I did not feel worthy to call people by their first names. Now, I call virtually everyone by their first names, including the president of the college where I am a professor. (All faculty and administrators are on a first-name basis where I work.)

oops! correction

I tend to avoid it, but didn't really think that much about it until now...things that make ya go 'hmmm'...

I have the opposite.

I dislike calling people by their nicknames because it's not their real name. Also don't like it if someone shortens my name. I have a habbit of saying someone's name first befor starting to speak to them - I guess it gets their attention and make me realise who I am speaking to.

Never thought of it before reading this thread. It explains why I some get agitated when I do the name thing before speaking to them...

I have a tendency to call people "hey". ex. Hey, how you doin?

I tend to address people as 'comrade' or 'citizen' x]

I dispensed with the name thing a while ago. As it is I'm changing mine to something different... o,...,o

I'm really bad with names because I need to see them written to remember them. I think people that liked to be called by their names should wear name badges.

i am very careful of titles. If a person is a Dr., Professor, or Teacher, whatever, I will have to call them by their title followed by their first or last name (depending on how it sounds to me ). I also call strangers Sir, and Ma'am.

I've always felt that a person took the time to acquire such title, he/she deserves the respect the title brings. Then again, I am a very class-based guy.

However, this does not apply to people I know like imediate family, and people my age who I occassionally speak to. I even call my parents by their first names.

My dad has that problem; he hasn't called my mom by her first name by... well, I don't know.
I actually have a hard time with that once they become my friend, it's not a deal when they're not, odd...

In a word: yes.

I rarely use any names. It's not really intentional, but at the same time names do seem kind of redundant if the person already knows I'm talking to him/her. "Hi" works just as well as "Hi [Name]". I guess it's just another piece of smalltalk that I've never really understood. I'm also terrible at remembering names, probably because I hardly ever use them.