Are you naturally drawn to other Aspies?

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To this very day I have never met another Aspie out in the wild just by coincidence. I have mentioned many times to my therapist that I would love to meet another Aspie at the center I attend therapy at. But so far they've never even really reacted to my request. I guess they're keeping a skeptical eye on me for the time being trying to asses whether or not I really have AS. I've only been going to this new therapist at new facility for about 6 months.

I desperately wish that someone out there would just stumble up and mention AS. It'd be really nice to meet another Aspie.

I'm drawn to WP.

Yes, I've experienced that, but mostly with member of the opposite sex. I have often passed by a woman at work (as in new employees), and been almost instantly drawn to say "Hi" at least, when it's someone like that we usually end up on friendly terms at least, if not full friendship and I find their either fully on the spectrum or damned close to it. It's not their looks, causing me to zoom in on them, and it's not a social interaction, usually either I'm passing through their area or they're passing through mine... it's not their age, that ranges widely. I've been going with the assumption for the past few years that it's pheromonal. It certainly seems that the women who have been drawn to me over the years have been spectrum. And despite what I say in public about my looks (shut UP, Fretion....) I really don't scare small children, unless I try... Certainly the only SUCCESSFUL relationships I've had have been with spectrum women. Of course I've only been married 20 years, so it's kind of early to call... she could change her mind.

Well, you certainly don't scare my little girl. Or my boys for that matter.

i kno wat u mean robotto

i hardly see aspies in my town. i saw one at the library once, and we just checked each other out and that was about it

I am drawn to people who don't make me uncomfortable. I am not drawn to many people.

I can relate to that.

Saw a beautiful girl reading a Star Wars novel at my college, drawn to her right away but took me a couple days to work up the courage to finally go chat with her. She was sweet and polite and I just felt like we had some connection somehow; like we had something in common but I couldn't put my finger on it. However most of the other times I talked to her, it was very short conversations before she asked "I'm sorry but I'd like to go back to reading now." I was stunned! I thought she liked me, yet she was telling me to buzz off so she could read her book! But then another time later, we talked again and we fine. She loves reading and writing and even let me read some of her work! And then the next time it was back to acting bothered by me. One of the last times we talked, she was waiting for a ride that time from her brother who was late; although she was 24 years old, she refused to drive a car... and also refused to talk on a cell phone. Thought it was odd, but as someone who hates driving and talking on the phone, I kind of understood. Still was very attracted to her, but in the end was just too perplexed by her behavior of going from sweetness to rudeness to consider asking her for a way to contact her. The last time I saw her was April 2007.

May 2007, I first learned about Asperger's syndrome. Not only did it answer so much about my own life and why I've always been the way I am, but reading about it constantly reminded me of this girl too! Then I knew what drew me to her, why I felt we had something major in common that I've never had with anyone before. Kind of felt like a dolt after interrupting her reading several times for nervous attempts at small talk. >_< Now that I understand, I wish I could bump into her again. It'd be cool even to just be her friend, because she'd be the first friend I'd ever had who I feel could truly understand me.

Yep, I married one.

I'd say I might be repulsed by anyone I might run into with AS. Most everyone I know is extremely social when compared to me, and that's how I like it. Oddly enough, my current attraction is probably the closest to having AS out of everyone I know. So I guess you could say most symptoms deter me. I'd still be interested in meething others like me, I just don't know if I'd enjoy them.

On the opposite side, actually. I find myself more attracted to people who are happy, outspoken and really kind.
Maybe that's why I fell for my boyfriend. Wouldn't leave me alone, told me he loved me so many times a day (despite me mocking him) before I finally fell. XD

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I frankly would dislike women who have AS. I'm not one to "Try and Try again!" with women. I read many comments from AS women here who just brush off guys with no second thoughts and I would be very tempted to call the lassie a "b***h."

In general, I am naturally drawn to pretty women. Yes, I am shallow in that regard. +1 if they laugh at my jokes/criticism. +2 if they can tolerate my jokes/criticism. I am hopeless.

I met a guy with aspergers last week. My boyfriends sister stayed with us for a couple of days and brought a friend with he, who told me he had aspergers. I was really shocked and it took me a few minutes to admit that I have aspergers too.
I am hopless at talking to strangers but felt like I really wanted to talk to him more. I have recommended wrongplanet to him so maybe I will get another chance to speak to him one day.

No, but I feel that people with AS or other conditions are drawn to me. It's as if they could sense something about me. Usually it's the least social ones, too, which made it even more awkward for me, because then I would be shunned even more.

I am more comfortable around people who manage to fit in despite whatever condition they have. If I see them being socially accepted then I don't have as much as a problem with them. I know this might offend some people, especially the younger ones, but please take into account that it was not a kind world I grew up in, and that if I wanted to survive, I had to become hardened or die. was expected to become normal; the idea that there might be something permanently unchangeable about me never occurred to anyone. Also, remember, there were not the support services out there that there are now. There was no such thing as an aspie identity or aspie pride; it was all shameful, shameful, shameful. "Rain Man" is not just a movie. When I was growing up, "Rain Man's" fate--institutionalization--was a very real threat.