Ever feel like EVERYTHING is harder than for everybody else?

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I find a lot of things difficult, even things that some people find easy, and it only came to me relatively recently that if everyone did things the way I did then some common skills might not be so common. Still there are things I find easier than most and I just have to work with what I'm good at and never mind the occasional bruises and spilt crisps.

Things that are easy for an NT are harder for me but in contrast, things that are hard for an NT are easier for me.

To me, it most always anymore seems like I have to placate others with proving my self to THIER satisfaction,
I am so sick of that, yet any more it seems I have little choise.
god I hate that.

All the time.

But then I just go that extra effort. I won't let it hold me back. I just grin and bear it. I can give up and feel sorry for myself, or settle for less, or do it as well as anyone else, no matter how hard it is. I'd like life to be easy, but I can't kid myself.

But this is just me talking.

Thanks everyone; it's good to hear that others feel the same sometimes. It's one of those things I would never say to anyone, not even my Mom or best friend because it just sounds too whiny.

I know exactly what you mean. I have difficulty styling my hair; I don't know what the heck hair is supposed to look like! I have managed to do o.k. with a small amount of makeup. I have trouble matching clothes. I am a lot better than I used to be, but I still have trouble putting outfits together. Sometimes I think it would be so much easier to be a guy!

Social situations that involve people just walking around and mingling make my stomach hurt. The sound of all the various conversations drives me crazy. I don't know how to approach people. When I go to a social event such as a dinner at a church and I try to join in a conversation I always get weird looks from people.

So yes, I can relate to everything being more difficult for me than other people. As for cooking I make simple meals. I buy carrot sticks that are already cut up; I buy baby carrots. I buy salad already made. I buy fresh fruit and eat fruit and low-fat microwave oven popcorn for a snack. I buy frozen fish filets and things like that for a simple dinner. There are some canned soups that are good; I don't like condensed soup though. Frozen vegetables are great because they last a long time and it's important to keep food spoilage to a minimum to avoid wasting money. As frustrated as I get sometimes, I have pretty much accepted that I am different from other people and will always be so no matter what I do. I don't really have an answer: I wish I did. I try my best to spend time doing things that I really enjoy instead of trying so hard to fit in. I have some friends that accept me for who I am and I am very thankful to have them. But sometimes I wish simple things like housework and cooking came easily to me.

Certainly for a guy appearance is easy. I let an NT female acquaintance pick my clothes so that every combination works within it's category, bed hair is in, the unshaved look is in, I never have to worry about looking good. Unfortunately looking good does me very little good as a guy. Sure I get attention, but romance? No chance.

Change the context and wording of some of these posts, and you can apply them to any "disorder" or "syndrome". Anyone that varies from the norm enough to have a name for it is going to have problems with things meant for and probably made by the average person.

I do find life quite hard as im single don't go out at night n do everyday tings like payin bills, shopping but on da other hand wen im travellin 2 tube or national rail stations 4 me i know where im goin where as NTs go 2 info helpdesk 2 get help where 2 go or even shout at them i would never do dat.

Hence, the term "disorder." Granted, and granted that other disabled may have things much harder, as I said. This is about sharing and commiserating over our frustration, not about comparing it to others' frustrations.

It's the pervasiveness of it that gets to me. And the fact that even though I know it's not my fault, other people don't. To them, I'm a klutz, a slob, absent minded, I don't pay attention, I'm not careful enough, etc. And you just can't go around explaining it to everyone.

i have trouble whith new busslines etc i need to go at first time ..takes a long time to get over actiency

Really, it IS technically a disorder, but only if you let it disable you.

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