How do you feel when someone denies you have Asperger's?

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Saying that Asperger's equates to autism, but with adequate speech ("normal" in appearance for the most part), and with a normal level of intelligence should make people think differently. We talk like you (but with a few things that set us apart), we walk like you (barring some small abnormalities in posture and gait), and we look like you (barring odd facial expressions and whatnot)--we just don't understand and act like you. You don't understand and act like us.

Whilst those with Asperger's look and sound relatively normal compared to the individual who only utilizes echolalia and constantly rocks when in the presence of others--the extreme end of the spectrum, most of us still have a genuine disability which affects us severely even on the "mild" end (most of us don't work, and those that do are usually employed by the family, or menial tasks without too much change in routine and a structure to follow; most of us will never marry, and most of us will live at home or in government supplied housing).

I just have a thing for those who say Asperger's is mild (it's mild compared to "Rain Man", but that's not saying much).

It hasn't happened but I'd feel great.

Silly people at work think I have it since they read about it in some magazine - so whenever there's the mention of a metaphor or a subtle joke they say things that imply "I just won't or don't get it" when I actually both get it and read them through and through as I seem to be more sensitive than NTs about these things. They don't even want know; they just read that crap and that's it. . .

Nobody ever denies that I have Asperger's. They don't seem surprised when I tell them I'm a bit Schizo, either. People would probably react with more incredulity if I claimed there was nothing wrong with me.

im not DXed so i don't know what to say.

i guess it could be considered as:

1) a compliment cause they don't think you're that weird
2) ignorance at not really knowing what autism is, other than someone like rainman
3) a clear demonstration of just how little i do interact with the people around me, cause they don't know me... so how would they know...

It gets me mad. I admit, it's for private reasons mainly, people off the internet assume I was always so hf which isn't true and it's too private to tell them better which results in me only saying 'not correct' or saying nothing at all.

But up to know, when people said I'm hardly affected - if at all - I've only been in a place in which they demanded something of me which I can not do. So in return, the accusation that I'm just acting up gets me mad.

If someone meant it as a compliment in the correct context - coping with symptoms - then I'd feel great of course! I'm very happy that I'm that hf now, because it means I can life all alone someday and never have to see people if I don't want to.

It's a very weird situation. In a way they mean to compliment, I think. "You're doing so well, you're so competent, I can't believe there's anything wrong with you!" to which I answered "There isn't anything wrong with me, I just process information differently". And when some of my personality quirks come along and they get annoyed, at least now they think about it for a minute and then it's "oh, uh.. sorry. I've thought that through and there's no problem with you not having all the fluorescent lights on all the time"....

But it's a weird feeling, too. Like, excuse me, you think I'm making all this up? If I was going to make something up, I'd certainly have picked something way more sympathy-engendering.

I've also noticed that my new boss is leaving me out when she's assigning tasks on new projects. That didn't happen before. Gee, I wonder why?

You're missing a choice: It has never happened.

I feel frustrated on one hand because I know that people don't understand AS. Then I feel kinna sad for them that they don't open their heads to the possibility that not all brains are wired the same. I'm not sure that there are good words to describe the way I feel.

I get pissed when my ex and the judge say that my son and I don't have AS. It just shows how uneducated they are. It shows their ignorance. My ex thought that based on one book that he read that I had just made it all up I think it's crazy. We're not cookie cutter people. We're weirdos. We're not all going to have the same stuff as everyone else.

I am frustrated - I can't stand idiots.

Honestly when people who really know AS or autism say that I seem perfectly "normal" to them then I take it as a compliment.

No one knows what Asperger is, o what autism really is, for that matter. So when I say I belong to the autistic spectrum they say (or think): "you are nuts" as if "being nuts" should be better. I explained and explained, even in a published book, what AS is and why I am AS, but to no avail. So I am awfully irritated. I am in favor of everyone wearing a badge. The logo of the Nas, possibly.

I don't think I've ever directly been accused of not having AS (and if they did I would just tell them that I was officially diagnosed). But it does drive me up the wall when random people on the internet say that people are faking it or that it's not a legitimate condition. The worst was one article which declared that people who say they have AS are just as*holes.

EDIT: Here's the article: http://www.ridiculopathy.com/news_detail.php?id=1725

I have the opposite problem; everything I do wrong is blamed on AS...

But sometimes I think that may be we should refuse to talk, except for instrumantal reasons: can you give me a Kg of apples? Any other form communication between a NT and an AS is futile, false and impure, in the sense than you always want to say somenthing else and you say what you say to obliquely mean "I live differently". We (AS and NTs) are miles apart in our experiencing of life (erlebnisses they say in German). So we always lie, and we lie also when we say that we lie.