I've finally been kicked out for good.

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can you talk to someone at your school? a counselor perhaps. it seems like you and your mom could use some family counseling. you really can't be out on your own just yet.

I am not racist but your mom is being racist. What the heck?

There isn't no black or white personality, it all about good behavior and characterist.

What is wrong with our society?!?

What makes 18 the magic number?

That's when - by law - one becomes an adult.

First things first....not ACTING your race? How is a particular race meant to act anyway? Your mother to kick you out of the house because of that is REALLY immature...and illegal because you have 17!
Are you still at school? Could you find a teacher/counsellor/school nurse that you trust and tell them what's happened? You still need support.
Is there any long term housing arangement for you? If not, then you may have to speak to social services and get them to help you find one. I wouldn't be shocked if you were more depressed than usual. Getting kicked out of the house is bound to make ANYONE depressed...especially a dependant teenager! Don't be too harsh on yourself and whatever happens, remember, this is NOT your fault.

I hope things get better for you.

In some places it's 20, but still what's the difference? At 18 people are no different than 17.

Good Luck, Blackcat, it seems like your parents are being overly emotional. If you lived anywhere in New Jersey you could have stayed with me.

Parents sometimes act that way, but be grateful that you still have them.

Blackcat, I hope you get an appropriate living situation worked out. Maybe you can reconcile with your Mother, not a good situation at all. Do you have Aunts or Uncles to maybe stay with?

WOW, you just destroyed my picture of how you might look! (OH WELL, that isn't good or bad, just different).

Frankly, blacks that talk about blacks "acting white" are often the ones with the REAL problem! How were you "acting white"? You maybe don't like the same music/dance style? You maybe don't talk with "ebonics"? You maybe try to be polite, and not swear? Maybe you try to do well in school. Those are mostly GOOD things.

BTW I don't mean those as racist remarks. Many whites aren't that great, etc... HECK, people on here don't really talk about race. All this time, I just assumed you were white, and your race doesn't change my opinion of you one bit. It IS funny. Black cat could mean a LOT of things. I never once thought it MIGHT be your race.

Anyway, if they think you are acting too refined, or too smart, or not ethnic enough, it is best that you AREN'T near them. Maybe they, or others in your family, will reconcile. Otherwise, you may just be better off.

BTW you are FAR from the first black to "act white" or be accused of it by the black community. They may say the same about will smith(and many of the blacks on the fresh prince of belaire), or oprah! BTW Both are well paid and often respected. Even cosby and the family on "the [new] cosby show" "act white" most of the time on the show. And that is in STARK contrast to the bill cosby show!(The first cosby show was like in the 60s early 70s ). That did ok, but I guess he figured the new show would do better.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Bill_Cosby_Show

As for "acting white", MANY of the people that came over here, until like the past 50 years or so, were white. Almost ALL stopped "acting ...."<Place ethnic group there.

BTW Did you ever see akeela and the bee?

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0437800/

It is a subtle example of the problem you are going through. The mother, and many of akeela's friends, are racist, and against her attempt to win the bee. They want her to FORGET about this, etc... That is in contrast to an asian boy whose father DEMANDS that he win! I wish I could tell you the nice ending, but I don't want to spoil it.(I never understood the concept, but knowing the outcome spoils things for most). Here's a hint though! The winner isn't caucasion! BTW Akeela ends up building up support, and gets a lot of help. Her mother even ends up letting her compete and supports her.

ANYWAY, I DO wish you the best of luck. I guess I don't have to wonder about your eyecolor, haircolor, etc... anymore!

You're right of course, but the US has like five types of age cutoffs.

1. FEDERAL C.O.P.P.A, etc... 13
2. STATE Marriage Generally 16-18
3. STATE Driving Generally 15-18
4. FEDERAL Main cutoff for freedom, education choice, signing contracts, etc. 18!
5. FEDERAL Final age for certain minor vices(Like drinking, etc...) 21!

That is just the way it is.

There is nothing I can do. My counseler told me to go home today and I did but she wouldn't let me stay. I am at another friends house. I do not know how long I can stay here. Basically, I am screwed and it is all my fault.

Blackcat,
my heart goes out to you. It's not right for any parent to kick their child out of their house unless it's for a good reason. Even if there was, she should've at least helped you out. I don't really know your mother but it doesn't sound like a good home to begin with even if you did get it back. I've been in some women shelters, they're pretty good. I don't know where you live so I couldn't tell you. It would be great if you had a case worker and more community support. I mean, you're not going to totally be safe living with your friend. Unexpected things can happen. Ask around, I hate to imagine someone that young already put out in the real world without some support. Wish you well. Update us if anything good or bad happens from your circumstance.

Blackcat, I feel bad for what's happening to you. Your mom may be upset because you "act white" but don't blame yourself for it. You should be allowed to be yourself and it was her decision to throw you out. You might want to explain your situation to your friend's parents and have them call your mom and talk things out. Try to find out what specifically she has a problem with and what you can do to change until you are able to live on your own.

Same thing happened to me. Call social services to see what they can do. Or find someone else to live with.

It is NOT your fault! You sound like a nice person, and your parents SHOULD be proud! Your mother is probably betting that you are simply old enough that she may not see much of a backlash. She may have been PLANNING this! A LOT of parents at least THREATEN to do what she did to you.

It's nice that you have a friend that is nice enough to even OFFER to help you through this time. I hope you can ride out all the hard times.

I agree, it's not your fault. It's beyond insane to kick your child out of home for "acting white" (whatever the hell "acting white" is...) .