Am I weird?

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[quote="nekoguy"]I have aspergers but I feel that social interaction is very important. Even if we have trouble with interacting socially. I think that you shouldn't let your differences bother you and to try your best. Maybe, it's me. I personally feel very lonely when I'm by myself for a long period of time. Does anyone else feel this way while still being an aspie? :?[/quote]

Aspie or not, you are still a human being. Humans are social animals from the git go. In order to survive we need to be nurtured for the first few years of our lives. We acquire our language and much of our mental machinery from and in the company of others. Feral children brought up by non-humans, thought rare, have been studied. They miss the "language and grammar" window of their development (which requires input from other humans) and so never really learn how to speak properly. So, yes, you need company from time to time just like everyone else.

Baal Chatzaf

I've always thought that though AS inhibits you from socializing, it doesn't mean you can't, or shouldn't. if you want to socialize then socilaize, theres no absolute AS law that says if you have AS that you can't socialize at all.

I do not think you are weird. If anyone wants to call you weird, that is their problem for not being able to accept people that do not stick with what is called "hot" by VH1 or MTV.

For me, it's like this. I crave social interaction, but part of me also feels like not bothering, since I know that I'll never be like the rest. I've been ignored and cast aside because I don't have the same interests or opinions as everyone else, so I find it a huge struggle to go out there and do social interaction.

Also, due to nobody's fault but my own, I have virtually no skills in initiating a conversation, keeping up a fun, interesting chat and making friends. The few friends I have had in life made friends with me, not the other way round. I make other people do all the work, though I wish it wasn't so.

Maybe this is just pre-exam stress talking.

That's not weird at all! I LOVE being able to spend time with people and develop good relationships....it's just that it takes a lot of energy and I can't be around too many people at once or I get overwhelmed. I'm actually really outgoing naturally--I'd talk to everyone, everywhere, about anything if I could--but I find that I say a lot of stupid things, do a lot of stupid things, and misunderstand people a lot, which makes me afraid to interact too much with people unless they are eccentric, loving and really amazing and accepting people.

I'm only lonely when I'm around people.

I also like being around people I know and can connect with. But I do not like crowds, and I do not like it when I go off my regular schedule, so I have to meet when I have free time. I want to be social, I just don't know how.