What are some of the defence mechanisms you've come up with?

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Saying to disagreeable people, "Hey a$$hole, I don't care what you think"!

I'd go with this one - but I also ATTACK the weaknesses I find in myself and try to improve them, and if I can't, accept that there are some things I can't change.

More defenses:

Try to be nice to people all of the time (but I can't keep that one going).

Appear to be really busy so that people won't ask me to do stuff.

Hide out at home.

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I turn into Homer Simpson - laugh at all the funny bits and quickly forget about unpleasant things.

I have always known I was somewhat different and have always felt sorry for people who were not (how boring). I just try to stay away from stupid narrow-minded people.

bookwormde

-Complete social isolation.

-When being confronted, I attack before others have the chance to do so.


Not very healthy defense mechanisms, but they'll do for now.

I tend to be a joker and use awkward situations as an excuse for humour or bad puns. If I can get a groan out of people then it helps to break any ice.

I act.

I tried the enormous ego. I tried being arrogant and harsh. I've tried ignoring people...etc...

But if I'm in a situation where I need to deal, I act. I pretend I'm this super cool, and laid back cat. I lay on the "I'm way to cool for this attitude". I'm sympathetic and I'll listen...but I don't give out much of myself.

Alternately, I"ve told people I'm suffering from a tremendous migraine and pardon me, because my head is killing me. (I get them too, so it isn't a stretch).

People think I'm interested in what they say because I won't talk much. I prefer when other people talk. That way I won't feel awkward.

I've spent many years learning about NT behaviour and communication, as well. That has helped tremendously.

DO NOT get down on yourselves, or criticize yourselves. It isnt' going to help. Remember that you are valued and a good person, regardless of what people say. Hang in there.

if im being yelled at i completely lock down..

Ditto. Anytime someone tells me I'm weird, I laugh and say "Thank you."

I need a better one for when people tell me I'm quiet, though...I either say "...yeah..." or if it's someone I know a little better, I'll say "I'm just kind of tired."