alex wrote:
Why do parents do that?? Its so cruel as we grow up around and live around insects our entire lives. Whats the point of making kids uncomfortable around them?? So cruel... So cruel...
They do it because they themselves are scared. Seriously, I have a kid brother and I got to observe this process in action. When my brother hadn't started walking yet, he was sitting with us outside and a bee landed on his knee. He looked at it, but didn't seem all that concerned. Then my father noticed the bee. His breathing sped up, he jumped up in a terrified crouch next to my half brother and started stuttering things in a panicked rising tone like, "Oh-oh don't panic it's just a BEE" or "Don't move <brother's name>, just don't move." And these words directed to a toddler who hasn't yet started talking.
My brother upon watching my dad for a few moments immediately became upset, grimaced in a cry and started waving his hands wildly at the bee, which chose that moment to fly off. My dad comforted and consoled my brother, though I think he was more consolding himself. I could barely resist making some callous remark like "It was just a bee, no problem." To do so would have probably insulted my dad enough to summon the half hour long "I'm right" lecture.
I don't have any memories of my father spooking me in that way, but those things take hold before we develop concrete memories. Well that and bee stings hurt like the dickens. Even memories as deep as these can be overridden too: living out here in dry dusty spider country I've gotten where a cranefly can bonk itself on the desk light and practically hit my face and I'll just like, blow it away with only a mild twinge of unease. We have bright orange craneflies out here, and I'm still not sure if they sting.