Avengilante wrote:
Showing teeth feels like a posture of aggression to me, very feral. I know other people do it, my mom's easy with the flashy fake smile, but that's just what it appears to be to me - fake.
I agree. the smile is fake, but the
reason it seems fake to us is because it is flashed like as a signal to others in many and varied shades of meaning. It is the Social Iceberg that we only see the tip of. Deep underneath is the blue ice you can run up on and tear a whole in your boat for sure!
That flash of smile is to disarm you to let them know they are there. The smiler wants you to mirror their social greeting and that is the one they have used in greeting to other nts that is perceived as warm and welcoming and has been used many times with other nts and it gives a the person smiling wants to have
us mirror in
ourselves the feeling they want you to have . . the 'warm fuzzy' that dazzles those with mirror neurons that like them think they are paying you off by incurring that feeling in
us and can be very puzzled that you are not responding to her but caught up in her social expertise it never occurs to her our reaction is something other than our just being rude by laying bare the very bone of her social practices by rejecting us. But they are not aware that we don't
feel the feeling so much,
we don't get the 'warm fuzzy' they are supposedly sending;
not that we would want it if we did, perhaps!
we only see the obvious action and
perceive as fake because we are not into the social payoff of the interchange.
Avengilante wrote:
I think the lopsided grin is about the most expressive expression of approval I ever give, unless you can make me laugh out loud, which is rare.
I love to laugh out loud. Especially if something is classicly ironic!
Who else laughs at inapproriate places in a movie? In movie houses with only several other people there, if that?
Merle
yes!