27 May 2008, 1:44 am
27 May 2008, 12:49 pm
27 May 2008, 1:35 pm
kit...I had a similiar experience with my GP and I was in tears. I think the reason it was so painful is that it makes you feel discounted...like the pain you are in is not real because ..."everybody has that problem and they are dealing with it fine"...what amazes me is that the people saying it seem to have no awareness that they are being insensitive (where are their amazing powers of empathy that we supposedly lack??) Can't they see that it is the same thing is someone who is blind and someone says..."Yes, sometimes when I am in a dark room, I have that problem too".... 
I hope you can find someone who understands AS. You therapist could be the nicest person in the world but if they "don't get it" they are going to do you more damage then good. Believe me, I wasted many hours with them trying to get me to socialize more because it is "healthy thing to do" or spent hours explaining to me how my childhood trauma was the cause of all my problems...AS is neurological.
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27 May 2008, 6:56 pm
Excellent example!
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27 May 2008, 11:21 pm
Excellent example!
yes, quite.
i am considering being more 'out' about asperger's lately.
i mean. why should i be more ashamed of AS than my hearing loss? both affect my ability to communicate. both can benefit from simple accommodations and basic understanding. yet i can only talk about one of them... makes no sense.
i'm not going to blab to everyone, but i think when i finally get a job in the pharmacy tech field, at some point (after probation is over, because DUH) discussing it with at least those who are directly above me.
28 May 2008, 1:02 am
28 May 2008, 1:23 am
I hope you can find someone who understands AS. You therapist could be the nicest person in the world but if they "don't get it" they are going to do you more damage then good. Believe me, I wasted many hours with them trying to get me to socialize more because it is "healthy thing to do" or spent hours explaining to me how my childhood trauma was the cause of all my problems...AS is neurological.
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28 May 2008, 2:42 am
28 May 2008, 3:11 am
Oh well please come back and let us know how that went, I'd be interested to hear the reaction. It probably depends on the people and how much they know about Aspies. A psychology class might be very understanding but a mechanic class might not! I really don't know what people would say if I told them. I think some would actually be relieved to know there's a reason for me being "not all there!"
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28 May 2008, 3:33 pm
Oh well please come back and let us know how that went, I'd be interested to hear the reaction. It probably depends on the people and how much they know about Aspies. A psychology class might be very understanding but a mechanic class might not! I really don't know what people would say if I told them. I think some would actually be relieved to know there's a reason for me being "not all there!"
Yes, I'd like to know that, too. I once told a friend that I had been tested for a learning disability, and found to have dyscalcula, and she began treating me like a ret*d! It was almost like she had immediately forgotten the two years she had known me.
