I am a bit bitter I suppose.

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Why did no one notice?

Same reason no one notice my husband.

He was born in 1960.

You in 1991 (your stated age is 26)

It wasn't on ANYONE'S radar back then.

Schools have only really changed in my area since 2010. That's when bullying became a hot topic. When diagnosis like PPD-NOS, Aspergers, Autism (for kids that didn't wear a helmet and weren't non verbal), anxiety, depression were even brought up in children.

Special education was for the blind, deaf, and physically disabled kids. No one considered the kid with ADHD needing help. And even back then, if your parents had money, it was hard to find anyone to even diagnosis you, let alone get treatment.

So..depending on where you lived in the 1990s, if your parents had money and connections, you MIGHT have gotten a diagnosis in 2000. But even then, most clinicians would not diagnosis ASD after the age 6. You would have probably missed that age cut off. Remember insurance would not for a clinical diagnosis after age 6. My insurance only changed that 5 years ago.

No one noticed because there was no name for the issue. No one worried about child psychology back then.

Also some people don't notice because adults have their own bag of s**t to deal with. If you got mental health issues and life is a dumpster fire, worrying about Buffy's playground problems may not even be on your radar screen. Anyone can make a baby, but doing it doesn't mean you'll be an decent parent.

If your parent did care, and tried address the problems, they probably would have been shot down at school. Schools' answer to weird kids with behavioral problems was "buck it up butter cup".

It wasn't right that you were tormented and marginalized over things you have no control over. In the time frame you grew up, except for the far lower end of the spectrum ASD wasn't acknowledged.

Had you been born in the 1950s, depending how bad things got, you could have been diagnosed schizophrenic and dumped into a state asylum.

You can't always take the knowledge of today and extrapolate it back into the pass and ask why didn't something happen. I think this is the case for anyone born with ASD born before 2000.

I think everybody has something that they're a little bitter about, unfortunately.