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22 Jul 2008, 10:09 pm

I can talk alot but Ive learnt to shut up cause found people cant handle me. Best just sit there and smile :)



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22 Jul 2008, 10:17 pm

Laconic Man here.
I seldom talk unless there's a rare convergence of favorable factors. People I know; subject I know; in the mood; majority of conversation participants are respectful of letting everyone get a say. If too many people are trying to talk too much or too stridently I know I will get buried so I don't bother. If I start talking at the exact moment someone else does, I always lose, they keep going.
I love silence. I love people who are comfortable with silence. I love people for whom the phrase "comfortable silence" is not an oxymoron.
My tendency not to talk affects me negatively in every situation except being interrogated by police.



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22 Jul 2008, 11:47 pm

I can only talk a little.



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23 Jul 2008, 12:05 am

I talk a lot when:
I've had a lil too much caffeine (everybody, right?)
When I'm comfortable with a person, sometimes to a manic degree (figuratively!)
When I can't hold it in
When I see something cool about a perfect stranger (like a shirt with my favorite band on the front)

I talk a little when:
People ask me to talk
When I'm expected to hold an opinion (I often waffle on previous opinions I've had)
In a large group of people
With friends (yes, friends!)
When my parents try to "open" me up, after ignoring me for so long (and vice versa)...


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23 Jul 2008, 12:07 am

SIXLUCY wrote:
I can talk alot but Ive learnt to shut up cause found people cant handle me. Best just sit there and smile :)


I bet people get worried then! :wink:

When I smile, people immediately notice, often times expressing concern at my very innocent smile. :twisted:


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23 Jul 2008, 12:18 am

I don't talk too much unless I feel comfterble then I talk way too much, I often feel bad about the things I said aswell, also if I have too much Pepsi max, I swear it is worse then normal pepsi.


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23 Jul 2008, 12:26 am

johnners wrote:
I'm in a similar boat. Some situations I clam up and try and be invisible, I even find myself hunching down in the chair. I don't really have a problem with that, it gives my wife the opportunity to chew the fat with her friends, gives me the chance to indulge in some people-watching.

My biggest bugbear, though, is the urge I get to share information, often useless titbits I've heard. My poor wife gets the brunt. She'll be vegging after work, reading her book or watching the telly, and i'll stroll in to inform her that the outside temperature is 58 degrees or something dull and useless like that.

A little warning bell inside me rings whenever I hear myself saying "That reminds me of..." or "Did you know that..." because I know that's the start of a monologue. The trouble is I just keep talking, or I'll get an inkling that I'm being boring and sort of fizzle out.

Another problem is coming out with apparently random stuff. You're talking about, say, the train being late, then go quiet. Inside your head, your train of thought is on time, passing from "trains being late" through "that time I had to wait 2 hours at Ely" > "I wonder what Ely station looked like in 1955" > "I bet they didn't have strip lights in 1955" > "my dad's first car was an Austin", then your mouth says "did you know my dad's first car was an Austin?" and go on about how much you love old cars. What's that go to do with thr trains being late? What's more, what chance has someone else got of commenting on your dad's first car? It's a classic aspie one-sided conversation.


I do the same thing! And then I end up connecting things like frogs to magic to Law and Order and the other people are left in the dust.

But generally the more uncomfortable I am the more I talk...and then no one wants to be around me : )


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23 Jul 2008, 2:42 am

I only talk to exchange information and humor. Talk for other purposes is pointless for me. I have no need to persuade others or to seduce them or to lie or cheat. I know how to do these things but choose not to as a responsible human being.



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23 Jul 2008, 3:01 am

-JR Guys love it when I smile. I dunno they just think Im so cute :wink:
Do hot guys like cute gals?? :twisted:



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23 Jul 2008, 6:04 am

I[i] alot



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23 Jul 2008, 6:12 am

I talk bout [I] alot
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23 Jul 2008, 7:34 am

Made me think about this movie.
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23 Jul 2008, 8:12 am

As an adult I talk a lot to all and sundry as a kid I also talked a lot but was more shy around those i didnt know. People often tell me i am talking too much i think aspies go to either extreme I have a friend who talks very little.



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23 Jul 2008, 12:12 pm

I talk only a little.



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23 Jul 2008, 6:49 pm

It depends on my mood & who I am with! If I am in a good mood, I am more talkative. If I'm in a bad mood, I don't want to talk & I prefer to be left alone. If I am with people I feel ok to be around, I am much more talkative than if I am with people I don't know.



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23 Jul 2008, 7:58 pm

Sometimes I talk a lot and other times I don't talk hardly at all. Usually at home I don't talk much but at work I'm either very withdrawn and try to avoid talking or I'm rather chatty. If I'm with someone I'm comfortable with and they pull me out of my shell I start talking more and more and more and can't hardly stop. Once I stop though I usually withdraw again pretty quickly.