I'm being ignored.

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I think it's a comon thing and it's not worth your attention. I'm ignored because people don't understand me, or they don't like me or they are deep in thought, or they really think the same way as I do, so they got nothing to say but agree silently... As for me, I ignore everything that doesn't affect me.

I get ignored all the time. I'm getting used to sending out e-mails, leaving voice mails, and starting conversation with the expectation that I won't get a response. I am definitely a "thread killer", and I get frustrated all the time.

Sometimes on WP I will see quite evidently that a particular poster is being ignored, or that his or her thread is being ignored and not getting a decent amount of respect or response. So, I, feeling empathy for that poster, reply or respond to his or her post, or his or her thread, only to be ignored by the very poster I was attempting to support. It's all very strange. Recently I was the only one to respond to a particular poster's thread and in posting what I thought to be a very positive response to the topic, killed the thread at the same time. Dead with only two posts, the poster's initial post and my response. It's all very weird.

Had this problem for so long that I have become accustomed to being ignored/invisible. It's when somebody does want to talk to me that I am shocked!

Yeah, I feel ignored a lot and it's very irritating. It hurts my feelings too but there are times I want to be left alone, not really ignored, just left alone. It really gets me when I'm ignored by someone I like but don't know well. It freaks me out, like I don't know what I did to make them ignore me. Logically I know they may be in a bad mood or something might be bothering them but emotionally, I can't hardly handle because I don't understand usually how someone else is feeling.

I do the same thing. This is why I usually don't start threads. If I do, then I feel it necessary to reply to all respondents. I was taught from early childhood that one must reply to all correspondence -- to avoid doing so is rude, according to my mother. I still do so, whether it's handwritten mail, email or posts. Doesn't matter. I still find it rude if people don't respond to me, but over the years I've learned to accept it. I'm sort of OCD that way - quid pro quo - and things must work a certain way or it makes me upset or uncomfortable. I try to respond to people so they don't feel left out, but even then, most times the OP doesn't reply to me, either. I'm so used to being ignored here that, like someone else here said, I'm actually shocked when I get a reply. But then, I subscribe to several forums populated by NTs and almost every timeI post there I get several responses. Of course, I have to answer all of them, too.

I ws ignored about a month ago, on one thing, and a few days ago I wasn't even allowed to finish a sentence. YESTERDAY, it became an issue! I was RIGHT! ANOTHER time a bit over a month, I was told my idea was WORTHLESS! TODAY, I was asked to do the same thing and the "manager" ADMITTED that it was EXACTLY what I suggested and he didn't want earlier!

And those are just the last two I can remember. It happens all the time. Of course, it happens in more "social" areas also.

It can be quite depressing to be ignored in life but to come here and be ignored sucks and is even more depressing. I have gotten responses from my original posts or just posts in general before and am stuck in the middle knowing if it's acceptable to respond or not because so many people don't reply after their original post. But yeah, I seem to also be a serial thread killer because so many times it seems like I am the last one to respond. I tell myself sometimes what I said was so true and to the point I leave people speechless. Well, even if it's dead wrong and not making sense it's still one way to deal with it.

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This is no doubt why Aspies dislike groups. someone has to be ignored, and it is withought fail the One with a Difference.

That could be the case why aspies do not like groups if they keep getting ignored when they are trying to tell someone something that is important then just ignore you !, whereas if others were being silly they would the right to ignore people.

Sometimes it can be too noisy if there is a big group of people and they are talking to each other it be annoying.

Sometimes I think that in real life, but especially so on WP, that the people who get ignored the most are viewed as unworthy of attention because (as their posts often indicate) they live fairly happy, productive lives, haven't suffered extreme abuse or suffered enough in general to be worthy of recognition by those who have suffered or continue to suffer, have a cohesive and relatively functional family and or significant others to rely on, don't have serious financial problems, and basically are glad to be alive. I think it is seen as almost a crime or injustice to be satisfied with one's self and one's life. Just a hypothetical here, and it would take a lot of hard evidence to prove, but I do think it's an explanation worthy of exploration or consideration. Maybe we should (someone should, not me) take a poll of members who consider themselves to be relatively happy and successful, hopeful of the future, not destroyed by the past, etc.

Nice post. I agree. You don't have to be miserable to have a valid opinion.

Last edited by corroonb on 24 Jul 2008, 12:07 pm, edited 1 time in total.

e tu coooonb. You have managed quite successfully to condense my paragraph into one very good sentence that says it all.

Everyone and anyone gets ingored at various points in life.
- Sometimes it is simply that the person is precoccupied, and isn't aware that you want their attention.
- Sometimes you've been heard and understood, but the listener is under the impression that you are not looking for a response and, so, doesn't offer one.
- Sometimes the listener has tried to give clues that they need to leave the conversation, but the speaker hasn't noticed them, or has ignored them (this might be a bigger problem for Aspies; I know it is something that my son's IEP addressed).
- Sometimes the listener isn't interested in what you have to say, or is unable to focus on it, but recognizes your need to express it, and is trying to politely compromise (I hate to admit this happens a lot between me and my son; my ability to focus on the spoken word and absorb it is very limited, it takes a lot of effort, but he loves to talk, and talk, and talk ... We've discussed this difference between us, and he's accepted it).

As for posts, I only respond if I have something to add, or if there is a question to answer. I read a lot of good posts, but responding to each one with "good post" would eat up most of my internet time. Sometimes not getting a response on the internet is a good thing. It often means what you have said cannot be disputed.

I feel like this a lot sometimes.