NTs correcting you?

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Friend: "Don't stare!"
Me: "Don't tell me what to do!" and I then proceed to stare very intently at him.

Generally, good-natured joking ensues.

I get correctedby other Aspies as well as NTs, so what am I supposed to do about it? Throw a tantrum?

I didn't read anything on this thread about anyone throwing a tantrum.

Slowmutant, it would be greatly appreciated if you would please keep your immaturity and negativity to yourself.

Immaturity is not being able to take constructive criticism without some kind of hissy fit.

Sometimes I stare at people to know who will look down first, especially when anyone corrects me

I have never really had a problem with people correcting me about information. In fact, I welcome it! If my information is wrong, I would love for someone to correct me with the right facts.

But if people correct me about very mundane things, like, say, my accent.
For example, I appear to be black. People critisize me for not talking "black." Grrr, why does it matter as long as you can understand my words?

An aggressive challenge? Do that to a gorrilla and he'll tear you limb from limb.

What happened to your friendly attitude to people? what agressive have you noticed?? by the way, animals often fear human glance. Did you know that? I don't need to challenge anyone, there's a whole world to challenge me.

There is an awful lot of aggression, vitriol, and mean-spiritedness on WrongPlanet, especially on the PPR forum. I get drawn into the meanness and pettiness and egoism again and again, against my better judgement. Seems that is the only way to interact with people on WP.

Well am get anoyed when I am treated lie an idiot if I do not use the right words or they question that what I am saying is not right. I try to test something first with a brief thing and then bring in all the technical stuff but one of my lecturers wants all my answers to full on, it is realy embarasing as I corected even though I know it, I just wanted to check first. I tend to check first so I dont look like an idiot.

I don’t mind be correct so much and given constructed criticism. It's the nagging I dislike or when I’m being insulted. Or when they do it in public when you are surrounded by a lot of people.

Funny true story:

I once found myself staring at the legs of this guys wife. It took me more than ten whole minutes of staring before I realized what I was staring at.

My pet peeve is being corrected for spelling mistakes, and it seems to be an issue with certain
aspies on this site, to be spelling Nazi's, they don't seem to realize some of us here are dyslexic.

Giving constructive criticism is actually a good deed done for the other person. But there is definitely a knack to receiving constructive criticism without reacting emotionally. It is not verbal aggression.

Destructive critcism, OTOT, is intended to stir up the offended and angry feelings. It is verbal aggression.

You're wrong! I don't think that you and me, we CAN NOT discuss anything else. But if you take an interest in discussing religion, you should be ready to meet opposite opinions. It doesn't mean that we would fight at once, as soon as we meet, for example. There are too many things to discuss besides religion. And an agressive opinion can be provoked by strong emotions. Truth is born in discussions, if not A, then B will find out something TRUE for himself. Emotions also have big influence, I believe you try to turn the discussion into a peaceful conversation but I don't think it can be possible if people want to plead for their opinions. And there's really nothing personal. We are just "spirits" here, we'll never meet, so let's say what we think and discuss what we consider important, but I greatly doubt that it will influence anybody too much. May be, it's good that people can throw out their pain, speak out their mind and feel relief for a night at least, don't you think so?

Then you fit that bill perfectly. You ALWAYS ALWAYS give NT's the benefit of the doubt, and all of your caring, concern, sympathy and compassion. But you have none for those of us exhausted every day by navigating the NT world at both work and home and always hearing about what's "wrong" with us, what we're doing, thinking, saying wrong, etc., etc. It gets pretty damned exhausting, frustrating and depressing after awhile even to the most adjusted and stable person. And this is the one place where we can vent about it.

But to you, we're always wrong and the poor, put-upon NT is always right and if anyone disagrees with you in the slightest about religion or guns or AS education or whatever fill-=in-the-blank, you just can't stand it and get on your high horse to climb onto your soapbox. So maybe THAT is why people around here seem to always have "hissy fits" to you. Your definition of "hissy fit" being not agreeing totally with you and not being always totally on the NT side no matter what.