Do you get along with your neighbors?

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I say "hi" to my neighbours when I'm at home. When/if I see them in town I have to think about who they are...

Telling people you have autism can be a bad idea. It can make things worse because they class you as a 'ret*d' or see you as easily exploited. Some of my former neighbours would definitely have psychological/behavioural problems themselves, so I wouldn't assume neighbours are 'normal'.

One of the things neighbours do is assess your social strength and connections and they adjust their behaviour accordingly, which often puts socially isolated aspies in the weak position. It's a good idea to be seen to be known and visited by others (maybe your parents or you'll have to find a RL support group), it sends a message to neighbours that other people take an interest in your welfare and well being.

I am afraid of neighbors. They wave to me sometimes but this is really weird and I try to run in my house as fast as possible to avoid them. I do not want to know anyone living near me, that just sounds like a recipe for disaster (read: unwanted guests)

Yeah, my enighbors started talking to me on occasion and...before I knew it, there they were, knocking at my door, every night! They try to be nice (for the most part) and I see it for that but it still panics me.

Then the dad got diagnosed with lung cancer and his kid started begging me to buy him cigarettes (of course I said no)! It's really, really awkward now. I do practically run inside when I get home. They probably think I'm doing the "run away from the terminally ill guy" thing. But I'm just not up to the social pressure of telling the kid that although I'm newly divorced, I'm not some out-of-control cougar who wants to buy him cigarettes and liquor...

I ignore them, and I don't know them (they know I'm Autistic now, so they don't bother talking/waving to me like they used to, which is cool).

My mother seems to get along with them.

I read this and I understand how you feel. I just have one tiny little suggestion though. You really should wave back. This simple act can spare you soooo much difficulty and it's the easiest thing you can do. You don't have to get close or talk but you might spare yourself some friction by this simple nonintrusive act of waving when they wave to you first.

Our neighbours in our old house were... well I can't type the word it is so rude. In our newer house the neighbour was REALLY quiet and never talked to us, but she wasn't nasty and we quite enjoyed the peace. Our last neighbour intimidated our family and stole our milk bottles. He was so mean and played loud music all hours of the day. Grr...

Mother and I are closer only to two pairs of neighbors - a couple in their 60's living across (the woman used to be mother's principal at work before she retired few years ago - this neighbor, not my mom) and a family living on the first floor (we live on the second one) - parents and their 21 years old daughter. I know them well but my contact with the whole rest of neighbors is limited only to saying hello while we meet.

I don't personally (face to face) know our neighbours despite living here for more than 10 years now and knowing this place since I was born.

But all the neighbours are non-autistic as far as I know. There's a lot of ruckus going on here though.

One of them terrorizes everybody else, has already tried to shoot people, currently tries to file charges against everybody who in his mind deserves them, must observe everything on the street because he always know when somebody is coming or going and know the exact hour and minute.

I don't even know what the neighbour looks like despite that he has always lived opposite of us. My family knows all about him as does every other person and family that is living here. All neighbours including my family know each other either well or at least with name and face.

I'm completely oblivious of the action. I just get told the stories all the time because most are raving like mad about this neighbour.

I don't know mine.

Sora sounds like that neighbor has paranoid schizophrenia. Be very careful.

I live in the same flat we moved in in 1990 and I still don't recognize many people from our staircase. For example I am able to recognise one woman only by the fact she is an owner of a yorkshire terrier she often goes out with.

Most people are miserable with their lives and need to take it out on someone.

yeah, to sum it up.

The other things is they always want something from you, your time, your sex, your money. Those posters who run inside to avoid neighbours have probably got the right idea.

The only ones I haven't had problems with are little old ladies on their own who are basically harmless, but they can take up your time.

Lol, that's what I do, run inside and try not to get too close. It's not because I am afraid to get close it's more because I have had such bad luck in the past I have this anxiety about any more neighbor drama. I have become an avoider:( I do wave if they wave first though. Not waving is a serious faux pas. I think that really hurts people's feelings. Sure, I can avoid as much as I wish and not "share" but to shun a wave from someone I think, really bothers them.

I hate waving. It it so GAY!