Do You Feel Invisible

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It is interesting, it seems that being invisible is something you can "control". I did a simple test once, amongst, "friends", (I use that term loosely, to define people who knew me, but I would hardly say I am close to them. Interestingly enough, two of the people in this test were women I was, or had previously dated.)
I was downtown with a group of friends, the day was somewhat warm, but had started of cool. I removed my jacket, and walked over to a fountain and sat on the rocks and didnt move for about one hour. From there I watched my "friends" go about their business. It took about 1 hour before anyone of them even realized that I had arrived. What I found most interesting in all of this, was that as long as I wore my jacket, I was never missed. This tells me they never looked for my face, but my jacket to indicate my presence. It was quite the interesting observation.

I get stared at a lot, when out in public. I tried this experiment, where I allowed my gray hair at the temples, to go untouched up. Instant invisibility! When I died the gray hairs black again, I started getting stared at again.

I feel invisible, because I forget that I am visible. It sort of freaks me out when people notice me. I've recently realized that I spend an enormous amount of energy trying not to get noticed.

I am a woman, but I have a handful of photographs of myself as a young girl with just a blank face. I remember having the pictures taken, and I know I just 'forgot' to smile. But I was plenty old enough to know that I should have known to smile or something. Just me, staring at the camera.

It's interesting you point this out, I've been thinking about it. And your post is insightful.

I typically feel invisible. There are some people out there who acknowledge my presence (hold a door open slightly), but most don't do this. I usually have to move out of the way of others for them, and feel as if they are stupid or something for not trying to move at least a little bit.

I usually try to stay unnoticed, and in fact usually make great effort to avoid people if I think I'm going to be noticed.

Or just wave your money at them - remember it's you that's invisible, they can usually see money quite clearly. Works quite well for me. Not that I need to do that very often - if the bar's that crowded, I'm in the wrong place.

When it's people trying to walk through me, I sometimes just stand still in a place where they'll have to either bang into me or plot a new course. It seems less confrontational than just continuing to walk regardless, and hopefully they look more like the guilty party.

Loads of people try to cross the road in front of me when I'm cycling. I used to have an extremely loud hooter which I would use to - er - warn them of my presence - the loudness was somewhat unnecessary, but there's nothing like a short, sharp shock for getting the message across. I rather think some of them probably took a little more care next time, which may even have saved a life or two.

Wow! I used to have counter people look right over me all the time. Yes, I was invisible. I'm not so invisible anymore, unless I really want to be. Photos of me as a child--well, I *thought* I was smiling but the smile was pretty dorky.

No, it's not just you. I feel invisible too sometimes. Also, when I say something I often don't get any response at all and I find myself wondering if they just didn't hear me or if they are ignoring me on purpose and pretending that they didn't hear me.

At my job, I work most of the time by myself, which I consider a good thing. I work best when I'm not surrounded by a lot of people. However, I am not invisible in terms of being unnoticed.

I sometimes feel invisible as well. People often talk over me or seem to not hear me. I can't tell whether they really don't notice me or if they just don't want to.
It happens a good deal at school.

I do at times for, whenever I'm around people within the community in which I live I tend to be somewhat quiet if not looked upon as being strange or weird. Honestly, I don't care of the college crowd of persons as, that's not my level of comfort however, when about the college campus yes, I do acknolwedge people with kind greetings i.e hello & good morning..

I think that when NTs get persistent, poor eye contact, they start to treat us like a "Closed" sign, and take their business elsewhere.

I really used to feel that way in school. I wasn't invisible when I was picked on but I was invisible when I was ignored. I still do feel that way from time to time.

I never thought of it that way. Not specifically the bar thing, but in other things. I usually figure that my presence or approach should be enough of a clue and don't want to be too much in-your-face...

I'm confusing it with the person who looks you in the eye and still refuses to move. That's a power game. But most people probably don't mean to dis you, they're just oblivious.

Some guy has been asking why I won't see him anymore.
I pretend to acknowledge him by saying it's because we have nothing in common.
Of course, that's not informative, so he'll just have to guess.
Do you think he feels invisible?

I feel invisible sometimes, moments were it seems everyone is looking at me and times when I feel noticed. And yet I do make an effort not to be seen other days, because I have Social Anxiety. Sheesch no wonder I hate to walk out my front door into the public