The neighbor woman called my daughter names

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Seriously, if you go to the police and talk to them they might be much more help in this matter, they are not the enemies in these situations. Go, explain what happened, they can counsel you on appropriate action. I think they could give you some good advice.

I'm curious, have you ever figured out who she was and what her role in respect to those children is? That may have a bearing on why she acted as she did. If she is being negligent in doing the job she is being paid for, for example, she will want to pass the blame onto everyone and anyone else she can.

I would keep a written record of the all incidents between the family and yours, best you can describe what happened, including going back to the situations over the summer. In case you ever need it.

Beyond that, I think you've already taken the most reasonable steps.

oh my god everykid where I live is like that towards me. Except I was the strong and tall one, and the smartest. Actully I was sick one day and some kids came to my house and throwed eggs at my window. even at school they picked on me everywhere but the play ground was the worse. For example I was eatting lunch (it happen when i was in the first grade) and I took out a cookie that me and my mom made the night before, okey so I took it out and was eatting it well they took it out of my hands and called me fat (and some other words) and then eat it in front of me so I did not let that brother me. When it was time for recess I went to play on the swings they started to beat me up and some fifth graders (but the fifth graders had to go in early) so I lost controlled and all hell broke loose and i was punching and kicking so hard that I broke some one elas leg. So then I got transfer to another school for a year then went back the next year. But I think that because everyone is so uneducated about AS and autsim that they make fun of us and others. But I made friends from another junior high school that have AS or another form of it.

I really hope that my daughter has a better childhood.

I know this probably is in the wrong forum, but I dunno where to write it.
Yesterday my 5 year old Aspie daughter came in crying because she got in a fight with a 7 year old girl in the neighborhood. The two of them are always fighting because the other girl acts very mean spirited which is typical for kids around here, and my daughter gets upset and usually ends up pulling hair, hitting, etc. Or there are misunderstanding with words, or my daughter is left out or made fun of. Yesterday I fixed the issue and sent the girls back out to play nicely.

A few minutes later a skinny girl, younger than me knocks on my door and starts telling me that my daughter spit on the other girl. I doubt this because she was JUST inside the house. And later upon asking many times, my daughter maintains that she did not spit or do anything since I talked to her. But anyway, I asked if she was the girls mother. She got a pissed off look and started saying, "No I'm not. Whats it your business? you have an attitude. you should talk with people without an attitude its not nessasary." I tried to explain that I didn't know who she was, and she starts yelling that we've met before. I say okay, I just wasn't sure. She tells me more about the spitting. (and inside I'm thinking... do you know how many things she's done to my daughter and I haven't gone door knocking to tattle? geesh.) I tell her that I know the girls fight quite a lot and she interrupts me to tell me that she can't beat the kids or lock them up but she damn sure punishes them when she sees them do something! And my daughter has no right to spit blah blah blah She's yelling at me telling me this. Then she says I have an attitude again. Finally I say, "Its MY porch! If I want to have an attitude I will."

I can't understand why she's yelling. I have no clue why SHE has this attitude. Of all the things those kids have done to my daughter... They're the kids that taught my daughter how to spit on people!

My daughter is standing behind me btw, and the kids with her are standing next to this women.. all of them hands on their hips. She says, "You can keep your F*((#&@^ Autistic F*#&@^ Freak away from my kids! F*#&^ Ausistic A$$hole!" and then she called me a bunch of nasty names. I just stood there. I think I was smiling, I don't know. I said she wasn't acting very mature, and that those kids were not perfect either. And would she like the two steak knives I took away from their girl? (Yes, she was running around with steak knives waving them at people. I took them from her over the summer.) The woman screams at me, "No you keep them. And while you're at it why don't you slice your F&#^ing throat with them too."

... she left my porch screaming about autistics and using language that was pretty colorful. She said all my kids were freaks because "Just look at YOU"...

My daughter was crying afterwards saying, "I want to move" over and over again. And asked me, "Why does she hate me when she doesn't know me yet?" And I don't have an answer.

I told my daughter to stay away from those kids and the woman, but I doubt she will. She just doesn't have that long term anger thing. Or remember WHY we're staying away. And I feel badly because as much as those kids are jerks sometimes, they're kids. Its not their fault they act that way.

Later on I figured that maybe the woman thought I was being insulting by asking if she was the mother. Being dismissive or challanging, since she remembered meeting me. But I didn't remember then. It was an honest question. I wanted to know who I was speaking to.

This neighborhood is very close. This is going to cause issues. Those type of drama people call the police and DHS and all other types of things I stay away from. Ugh. It made me feel sick to my stomach. And I feel bad that she said those things with my daughter around. Thats just not right..