Anyone on this board that appreciates NT social skills?

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I'm good socially.

Another person here who has tried to master social skills from observation and imitation, but can only do the basics, with no soul in it or understanding of why. People don't hate me on sight (or at least not as much) now, but I don't have that many friends either.

Again, I could really use a World-to-Shain translator - I don't want to become like everyone else, but I do want to understand what's going on, and what the meaning of it is, enough to not be completely alienated. As it is, I'm expected to have perfect social skills, but no one is willing to give me the info that all of them received at birth (or very close to) about HOW to pull all of this off flawlessly. Something that would artificially confer the same advantages everyone else gets would be great to have.

So... yeah, I don't have admiration for people with social skills so much as envy - I see social skills as a means to an end, rather than as something worth being amazed about inherently.

i've learned them over time and somewhat rewired my brain and i can appreciate and cherish social skills far more than an NT because i've really had to work hard to get them. i'm sure an NT would appreciate musical skills more than i do because learning instruments was so easy for me.

Appreciate like in liking that I'm faced with them all the time? No.

Appreciate like in finding them interesting? A little. I probably know a lot about them, I've been advised to go into that field several times now.

Appreciating as in not thinking any of them are bad or dumb? Yeah.

Appreciating as in seeing how important they're? Sure.

Appreciating as in wanting them? I wouldn't mind. If it's compatible with my mind.

Appreciating as in making it my goal to learn them exactly? No. Have a hard time.

The way I see it, it's learning another language.

I still haven't figured out all the semantical nuances, however, I got the general trend. I never appreciate my relationships with my friends and my girlfriend, and even with my family. It's like all the negativity in the world it's all hyperbolized crap.

I try the best I can and I am happy with everything. In fact, I gotten to the point that I learned Afrikaans, Zulu,English, Spanish and Russian, I can surely learn Neurotypicalese (which is the hardest language of them all)

And of course, I get a lot of help from the people I mentioned, it's amazing how my girlfriend, who is from a culture which values relationships very highly, is so willing to put up with my nuances.

I think, there's some that come naturally and I don't really think about enough to appreciate.

There's some that I've had to work at, to learn, and those I appreciate.

And there's some that contrast with my values and I don't have appreciation for them, and aren't interested in learning. Lying, game playing. I'll pass.

ive mastered everything -but love...

Brilliant answers! My boeing never succeeded in hitting off the ground...

I'm in awe of them, really; it's magic to me. My 4 years old nephew has it all over me on social development.

timeisdead,

Most people with Autism can't drive [on the road with other people] as it requires too much processing; people with Autism suck at doing more than one thing at a time (driving is a zillion things). This isn't related to social skills, obviously.