What would it be like if you lived in an AS Community/Home?

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What he said. Besides, all of us think we know what's best, except for me.

I agree with this.

I have some many special interests and have a hard time throwing things away. My house is full of stuff. We have one bedroom just for fly fishing stuff. Another bedroom is like my dressing room, I do my hair in there and have the mirrors, etc. I'm not sure how I could live in a shared house or even have roommates like when I was younger, mostly on account of all my stuff.

gee whizz - the thought of living in a home for people with AS or ASD's or even an ordinary home of any sort with a big group of people is an UTTER NIGHTMARE. i already find it difficult enough, living with my child's dad and my child. I constantly get overhwelmed because there are 3 of us. That's hard enough. throw anymore into the mix for me, and you get one long meltdown and constant outbursts and freak outs.

no thank you. i'll pass on that one.......

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I just get the impression of too many housecats in too small a space...

Might be interesting to meet other AS folks, but as for living with them? who can say?

I cringe at the thought of living with even one other Aspie and actually I've done that because one of my ex's was on the spectrum. I think you would have constant non-stop fighting and threatening one another because many Aspies can't get along with another human and see only their side of the situation. The women would all be repeatedly raped due to the desperateness of the many virgin AS men. Since many of us have OCD we would be fighting over use of the showers and sinks. And those with sensory issues would be fighting everyone who was making too much noise, turning the lights up to bright and anything that smelled weird, etc. But the main thing is it wouldn't last long because we would all starve to death and be evicted due to not enough people working to foot the rent and no one wanting to cook. Plus no one would clean and the health dept would kick us out provided that we all didn't vanish behind the clutter before they caught us.

I chose the party one.

I would cook, if I were paid to... I am an amazing cook who comes up with a lot of his own recipes. I can taste a smootie and know how to reproduce the exact same smoothie. I have made so many different types of soups, and one of them was high end restaurent quality for every aspect of it other than the bowl it was served in (in a restaurant that would serve the soup, expect to pay $15 for a small bowl). I have made a chicken and vegetables stri fry with chicken gravy and chinese noodle (tonights supper actually) and that was amazing. The list goes on and on.

EDIT: the soup was a roasted red pepper soup.

While I don't think we should completely segregate from NTs, it sounds like a fun idea.

By the way, what are the AS trends, fashion, etc, mentioned in the first option?

My brother is pretty AS-like as well... and when we're together we never talk even though we were close as small kids.

I think an AS house would be quiet, boring, and uneventful. I need very NT people in my life for balance, personally. I am entertained by observing them.

I'd love to share at least part of my day with people who aren't constantly rejecting me and distancing and finding me weird. That said, Í don't see the need for everyone to live in the same house. Having a couple neighbors like that in my apt building would already be an enormeous relief.

A cooking savant would generally be a great roommate for anyone to have!

Oh, just a thing that occurred to me the other day.

But AS trends, fashion, etc. would just be geek stuff, I guess, with an eye to quality of texture, practicality, stripped of the affectation. I.e. good stuff without pretentiousness.

There are some amazingly talented and interesting people on this website. I mean, AS are incredibly honest and fresh in their observations.

It would be so easy to throw together some books or compilations of hilarious, fresh and honest things people say here, like Asperger's Guide to Social Life, with Chapters about surviving work parties, etc. So many of the things people say here are actually terribly relevant to what a lot of NTs go through, too. I think some people here don't realize how fresh and interesting their comments on life are.

(But of course you can't do that b/c it would be ripping people's comments off.)

yes I know, and repeating my question

The one issue is the price.

I would guess that anyone that can afford $750/month in rent/utilities/food would either be employed, or have rich parents that are willing to pay all of their living expenses. People like that do not NEED to be in a group home/assisted living.

As such, anyone who can afford to pay that would probably much rather get a small apartment by themselves than live with a few people that would be significantly more "in need" than they are.

Oh, I will make a comment and hope that I don't offend anyone. The AS people who post from Europe & Australia seem to be healthier, with better personalities and more stability. I am getting the feeling that AS and disabled people are treated better in some areas of the world than in the U.S. There is a lot of bad healthcare here (inconsistent, is a better word, perhaps). Administrative and authoritative abuse. If a school system or health care worker tries to punish and abusively "breaK' an AS person who is being bullied and having meltdowns, for example, that is very traumatizing, psychologically damaging. It creates something that appears to be ODD, but is not.

I don't know that ODD is more prevalent or serious in the U.S. But it seems that AS people posting from certain regions of the world seem healthier and they appear to be in general treated better in their societies, with fewer instances of ignorant abuse that is traumatizing.

That is just my hypothetical stab at an answer. Might be wrong.