Forgetting to think about other people

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07 Feb 2009, 10:07 pm

I think it's mainly because we understand ourselves better than we understand others.

You're right about it being her day...at the reception I was stuffing my face while the bride dissapeared into a knot of people...

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08 Feb 2009, 2:47 am

Shelby wrote:

I think it definitely can be an Aspie trait to not "think outside yourself", though in the case you described I think you'll find millions of other women have been in the exact same position! I think most women get ideas for their wedding that they think are wonderful, and are shocked when their future hubby does not agree!!

makes sense to me

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09 Feb 2009, 6:51 pm

Tim_Tex wrote:

I always try to consider the feelings of others, but other people don't always take my feelings into consideration.

Sometimes they might be the ones not realizing that you could have a differing opinion.

This happens with especially common things. A lot of assumptions are made in normal social settings.

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09 Feb 2009, 11:12 pm

Acacia just gave me another part of my puzzle,thank you.

I've always been seen as selfish,and don't discount it as a possibility,while aiming to improve that,
now understand more why.

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11 Feb 2009, 10:08 am

Acacia wrote:

Spokane_Girl wrote:

Like I get an idea in my head and think my boyfriend would like it too because I like it.

I think this is the essence of what you're saying... assuming that others think the way you do.
This seems to be quite a pervasive quality of AS, and most other people see it as selfishness.
But it really comes down to our neurological inability to "put yourself in someone else's shoes."

I cause problems by doing the opposite of this. Rather than assuming that other people will be interested in the same thing as me, I don't think to mention it to them because it doesn't occur to me that they might be.

Yet it's fundamentally the same issue. Not putting yourself in someone else's position and considering what they might be thinking about.

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11 Feb 2009, 10:09 am

Sometimes I get so wrapped up in other people's lives that my own needs begin to suffer.

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