Hi im wondering if my bro has the asperger thing and......

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He sound like a SUPER cool guy to me. I wish I wasn’t an only child and had a brother like that.

also 2 other things i forgot to add

he has this thing where he can only watch tv comfortably or play games on it if he sits DIRECTLY in front of it, distance dont matter, but head has to be aligned or else he claims he starts feelin nautious

a MM off and he will continue to find the right spot, sometimes he would spend half an hour getting in exact position, especially for a vid game

another thing is he looks at his hands a lot, sometimes also randomly looks down left & right at his chest area, but not all the time - kinda like what chris tucker did in Friday, anyone who;s seen that movie knows what im talkin about but he never took pcp or any hardcore drug tho

sup with that lol

Well boss, I'd say he'd fit in just fine here. Sure, he'd rub a hell of a lot of people the wrong way, but thats what WE ALL DO. Anyone who claims otherwise doesn't realize the beast they're battling.

Take another point of view for a second. Your brother has been who is maybe not just because of his asperger's but his asperger's affect on people. We're very blunt straight forward people(not to say some of us dont or cant lie). Many times We react the way a wounded animal would. We've been fighting life so long, the war has us torn and shattered.

Its an uphill battle EVERY DAY, where your walk in the park is our climb up mt everest. It can seem like we're naturally gifted at things(and sometimes we are), but most of the time we worked our ass off to get that good. We excel in our areas of intrest because our obsession drives us to know everything. Your bro can play cod 4 that well cause he's been training on EVERY OTHER GAME LIKE IT. And now he just has new toys in his arsenal, not just new techniques to struggle to understand. He's got the basics down pact.

On the flipside of this coin, he doesnt know how to react to people. He's doing what he saw his favorite "characters" in movies and tv. He's "being who he wants to be" without knowing how. So he doesnt see the undertones, the contexts used. Thats why he probably does the clips of conversations for.

Does he repeat anything else a lot, or repeat a phrase after saying it/hearing someone else say it? The whole saying that one line 20 times reminds me of my echolalia(repeating sounds without understanding why). For me it helps bridge the gap between when I hear something and understand it. That or because it was so funny/good I wanted to hear it again. Can be movie lines, song lyrics, things I hear someone say in a conversation with me or around me. Im not trying to eves drop, my ears are just hypersensitive so I hear everything!(He might too).

The numbers "game", reminds me of a post on here somewhere, I'll find it. Its a symptom where your mind doesnt think in only sound, but pictures or colors, and certain words have different colros, meanings, feelings that overwhelm the person. I just cant think of the name bro. I'll find it tho.

To finish, I just wanna thank you for your brother, cause he appreciates you caring so much, he just doesnt know when or how to say it man.

Goody (hope this wasnt too long and helps some)

Ohh, and the tv viewing thing, That might just be his depth perception. Depth perception is usually thought of as just how far you can see, how deep into a picture you canj notice details. But it also has to do with peripheral vision(seeing out of the sides of your eyes). It might seem that he can see for a mile a way in a straight line(of course Im exaggerating), but have him step to the left or right an inch and now he can still only see a mile ahead of him, but not the same one he did an inch ago.

He cant see on an angle as well is my thought. I couldnt march worth s**t in a straight line cause I couldnt see I was moving left or right little by little. I'd bump into the other rows all the time! But you give me a picture on 2 sides of a paper where one is missing something, Ill find it, kinda quickly. Its like tunnel vision, hyperfocus. That also helps his video game skills, he has less to focus on so he can go that much deeper into it.

another ting i forgot to add, he smokes mary throughout the week but not everyday

and actually whats odd is that he acts more normal, not completely, but hes able to talk continuously with me or the family whereas in a regular state he drifts off usually endin up to him leavin suddenly

but he says if he smokes TOO MUCH in a short time span, he becomes EXTREMELY aware of himself to a point where he can feel his body processes working and his mind begins drowning at worst possible scenario as major panic induces, dunno what that means

he would take showers for an hour to calm himself, ever since that happened he does very small doses

the thing about the australian accent is hilarious

dam how do i embed utube vids

The best thing that you can do, that anyone can do, is to be supportive and accepting.

There's not much you can do personally to change his behaviour. A psychiatrist might be able to use cognitive behaviour therapy or something similar to help your brother adapt quicker, but there's no cure or quick fix.

It seems that you are handling this exceptionally well. The fact that you're interested, you're studying the condition to try to better understand it and you have your brother's best interests at heart mean you're already doing great. Your attitude is helping, many aren't as lucky with their family.

Though your brother might never function in the same way that "normal" people do, in some ways he will be better off and in some ways, worse off. Having you to look out for him is one advantage that can't be given him by medicine. Just keep doing what you're doing!

beareater,

i have a very recent thread for you to read:
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt90381.html

remember: everybody on&off the autistic spectrum
his his/her strenghts&weaknesses

the rest is up to them:
you simply accept and play the hand you're dealt

if i had known then what i know now, since one year ago -
i would have never had HAVED to know...
had i known that i would have qualified for any kind of benefit,
i would have never found myself now finally getting meager monthly benefits-income, less the creditors' cut

i shall get back to you (and all) about the cancer if you want,
but as such it has no bearing on (your brother's) autism[Y/n],
very little for you to pick right there but bones;
still, it does relate to 'not asking for help'

but you deserve more careful respondering
than time has me afford right now;
meanwhile i would like you to stop thinking about his 'strangenesses' for a while, and refocus:

think TALENTS!: what is he good at???

i am very interested in the fact that he plays ball well
how is he generally in terms of physical fitness;
does he like sports

(many of us dislike very much; but i believe sports provide
aspies with the best possible way of getting (into) social contact:
it give you something to DO with other people
in stead of talk with them;
if you must talk, there is a simple menu of subjects;
the rules of engagement are largely written down;
it is a brilliant way of communicating with people generally;
it teaches us about boundaries and intentions of other people; &c&c&c)

describe the ballplay he is good at, which sports?
is it just handling a ball (throwing-catching) or is he a good runner as well (not many of us would be)

more talents?
how was his schooling career?
anything else???

(o and can we please give him a name for this thread,
you choose - just dont use 'Peter')

oh and i shall also be able to talk about marihuana,
i use daily in small dosage, not for dozage but
sort of to keep myself productive and attentive -
(i seem to respond the other way round: i must lay off hashish)


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