Is Anyone Else Overwhelmed with this Forum?

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Sure, it happens periodically. If you stay around long enough you will see people taking breaks from WP. I have learned over the long term, if I have too many irons in the fire, nothing will get done. Not that it will anyway, but I plan on it and do it many times, only in my head. I plan and I plan every escape route as well. Just a simple thing as taking out the garbage can freeze me in my tracks, I'm so into, what if's.

Sometimes it very unhealthy to dwell on a problem for long times. Easier said then done, , especially if you tend to obsess and I do.

But you may find over time here you will find niches that are more comfortable for you and it settles in and becomes a bit less over whelming.

The joy of confirmation, why else?

when i first came to wp a while back i had some full scale meltdowns because of overwhelm and so much communicative input. i can still get deeply affected at times,but i am becoming more specific about what i want to talk about or where i want to contribute and why.

that has eased the pressure a bit.
some days i like it. some days i hate it.
but i know i get identifiction here and i have actually made a few WP friends. that is a good thing. we share a similar level of intensity i cannot find with anyone except people who have an ASD.

I get that way sometimes.

yes. i have had days where i vow to jjust leave WP because i get so affected, and then i calm down and remember that it is actually a really good par to fmy life and it allows me to have the kind of communication i want to have with people WIHTOUT having to deal with looking at them and all the details of their skin, features, attire, blah blah blah.......

humans actually terrify me for the most part. screens are safe and a good way to communicate and are actually a lot more effective than drugs in helping to dull the sensory stuff i get.

I'm retiring after 25,000 posts.

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bet you come back for just one more...

I second what Camilla said and want to add that after while it becomes refreshing to actually talk with normal people which is how I view most on the spectrum. I've also found that you'll find a niche in a few areas on the site and largely ignore many of the different discussion areas. It does become habit forming, especially if you work at home or don't work at all and can sit in front of the monitor all day long. For the most part the forums contain material that is very similar to the typical small-talk most people makes but every now and then you can get into some pretty serious discussions that are educational or enlightening and that makes it all worthwhile.
You can also makes some new friends which is always a plus.

I second what Camilla said and want to add that after while it becomes refreshing to actually talk with normal people which is how I view most on the spectrum. I've also found that you'll find a niche in a few areas on the site and largely ignore many of the different discussion areas. It does become habit forming, especially if you work at home or don't work at all and can sit in front of the monitor all day long. For the most part the forums contain material that is very similar to the typical small-talk most people makes but every now and then you can get into some pretty serious discussions that are educational or enlightening and that makes it all worthwhile.
You can also makes some new friends which is always a plus.

Not really, my life is driving me crazy at the moment and I'll do anything to escape. If it means staring at a computer screen. I'd rather that down a bottle of whiskey or misuse other substances. My stupid boyfriend or date had not been stop trying to ring me, sending me texts. He is such an idiot!
Even sent me flowers when I have clearly told him "I am not interested." What a wanka!

whitetiger: don't panic, it won't come up as an exam Q'

but I do know what you mean, i have not been on any other site that has so many posts on such a regular basis, maybe as any members either but i'd have to check that one out.

maybe i should get out a bit more?

I was overwhelmed the first time I came here, too, about a year ago. So I went and hung out on ASDGestalt for a couple of months instead. Then that place got too small for me, so I came back here, and learned to swim. Now I even find myself bored from time to time.

Yeah. That's why I haven't been posting all that much lately. I think I'm kind of taking mental resources from a lot of other areas to try to succeed at school. I find myself a great deal less able to organize myself, handle unexpected events, or eat or sleep properly than before I had those responsibilities. But I'm not starving even when I do eat cold spaghetti-os from the can; my cats get fed every day even if they have to serve themselves from the open bag; and my grades are doing fine... so I figure I can afford to divert those resources.

Yes, it was overwhelming - at first. Then I realized that I don't have to read every post (although it was immensely helpful for me to read several hundred old posts when I first joined - just to get an idea who everyone was & the general tone of the forum.)

Another thing I realized, is that I don't have to respond to every post - sometimes I can just read & nod my head. I only respond where I feel I have something original to add.

Finally, I realized that I don't need to convince anyone to agree with me - the world doesn't come to an end if they don't. I sleep a lot better knowing it's OK for someone to think I'm wrong.

I have an online friend who would post threads in our IM so I can read them and she acted like she wanted me to respond to every one of them because she ask me if I was going to post or if I have posted yet.


I do not read every single thread and reply to every single post. Sometimes I reply to posts later if I have something to say. I don't always understand the OPs and then I know what they are talking about as I read more replies so I finally reply and sometimes I don't.

not me