What would an NT do in my place?

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Yes, an ask an NT thread would be wonderful...

I think any woman in that situation, NT or not, would have done exactly what you did. What else could you do? To be silenced by the landlord or building management makes it much more likely that it would happen again, and as you said, the Police would wonder why you hadn't reported it the first time.

I don't consider myself NT, but I'm not Aspie either, and I would have done exactly what you have done. And consulted a lawyer!

This is the kind of situation I dread the most in life. When I have to choose between my rights and my connections. NTs have a way to bend things without having to choose either or. I have no clue how.

Back him into a corner and make him squirm for his life, and do it legaly. Have him put in a mental ward, he needs padded walls more than a cell. Guys like this should have to prove their life isn't a danger to people around them, or lose the right to live their life in public. Have him punished with the harshest punishment the law can pin him with. This guy sounds psychopathic.

Yeah, I would definitely call the cops if I were you. That's one of the reasons why I could never live in an apartment!

That's what I think too. If it were me, I'd be worried that he was trying to get into my apartment and that's why he wanted me to open the door.

I think an NT would have done the same thing you did. The landlord probably just doesn't want the place to get a reputation for having creeps living there. He needs to talk to the guy but it doesn't look like he's going to because the guy's his friend... what a jerk.

So let me think of what an NT would do next. I'm trying to think of what my mom (who is super NT) would do. She'd call the cops.

Don't let people intimidate you out of calling the cops.

But then you have to think rationally. You call the cops... what if you got kicked out of your place?

But then think again... is it worth it to live in a place where everyone is such a jerk?

The landlord is a fair person. He said he sees protecting his lodger is also a priority for him, and that he's going to talk to the bldg manager to ask him to tell the guy to stop it and that there's heavy carpeting here so it's impossible I'm making any noise with my shoes. But that's not enough for me. I refuse to live in fear of meeting that guy in the lobby or in the parking lot, especially late at night. It's my right to feel secure at home, so I'm going to report the incident. I have already pissed the landlord and the bldg manager anyway by telling them that I'm going to the police, so not going won't get them to like me again.

I feel afraid tonight. But I know I won't be afraid after I've gone to the police.

And it pains me no end that I know this wouldn't happen to an NT. It's so unfair that I should always be in enmity with people when I didn't do anything bad except not know the conventional ways to protect myself.

I'm NT and I think you should file a police report right away. Also, as an NT, I have had very creepy neighbors in the past. Years ago, one kid broke my door down because I wouldn't give him some money. The person is harassing you and they are psycho. Please, for your safety and for the safety of other tenants, call the cops. THEN go to all your neighbors (even if you have to leave notes instead of go in person) and inform them. This serves 2 purposes:
1. they need to be aware he's harassing you
2. they need to be aware that he could potential harass them.
I assure you NTs are harassed and violated also. Constantly.

Wow. I definitely know what it's like to have a threatening neighbor. I had one once, but I was afraid to go to the police because I knew they wouldn't have done anything & it would have just made things even worse with the neighbor afterwards. Going to the police is definitely the right thing to do, in my opinion. I wish I would have done it myself, in my situation. The guy sounds as if he has serious anger issues & could be dangerous.

thank you, ptown. People like to believe that others have earned the maltreatment. It's a psychological defense against fear. So if I told the neighbors, especially because the guy is from the bldg management they would hold it against me. Also, he'd never treat them the way he treats me, because I'm an easy target with being a woman alone. He thought, like everyone else thinks, that I was NT and too concerned with getting along to involve the police.

That's often true. What's really pathetic is when those who are paid to work with others on scary life stuff (e.g., counselors, case workers) behave that way ... demonstrating less backbone than the person suffering from the given problem.

Definitely a good idea to get the police involved, and also have ready access to recording any further incidents. I don't know whether he'd dare try the door again, but make sure you have something inside to protect you from attack, and also when walking to and from the building.

Thank you all very much for your support. I've decided to let it go this time, but I won't a second time. I just don't have the patience to deal with it right now, he's lucky my mother died today.

Aww, I'm sorry Greentea.

My condolences Greentea. I'm sorry to hear about your loss.

Thank you guys. She was very sick, it's better this way. I'm sorry to share here, but I just have nobody else to tell, except a couple people who called from work after I notified my supervisor.

Woah. That's awful. The first thing I thought was "he shouldn't complain about you, you should complain about him."