I am a "good" person. I want people to like me.

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Vint wrote:
What exactly makes you good?
Good for whom?[/quote]

And why should people answer to you?

I haven't learned how to write replies to people's comments yet. How do I do that?

What a dumb question. Ask them, not me.

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MW99,
if are not nasty to people,and are not a criminal,are not bad,maybe are being misunderstood and judged quickly which isnt hard to get if have an ASD or something similar.

I know how you feel. I feel like I'm a nice person. I don't bother anyone. I'm well behaved. Yet when I was in school, I was treated like I was doing some wrong and was a bad person.

"Why don't you talk"?
"That kid never talks".
"Don't bother with him, he doesn't talk."

That's all the bullcrap I had to hear throughout my school days. The way they said it, they made it sound like I was a terrible person and that I was doing something wrong. I'm lucky that community college is completely different because I've never been penalized for being quiet and it's been almost two years.

When I was going to school, I heard:
"What is a ret*d doing in this class? My mom says you don't belong in this school and we can't learn with you here."
"You don't need to take the SAT you are just going to end up on disability anyway."
and it just gets worse from there, those are a couple of the nicest examples.
Mw, I hope it doesn't continue like this and you will get the respect you deserve.

The days I can live by this exactly are bliss.

The way people rejected me or made fun of me with anger in their voice, you'd think I'd done something wrong, and I thought so too, but now I know that I didn't. Those people just had anger issues that they needed to take out on someone.

yeah i am and some people know it but i tell them im a bad person

Being a good person has nothing to do with people liking you.

Being funny ,friendly, and wity does.

Second of all, you probably aren't as good a person as you think you are. You probably aren't respectful, friendly, or sensitive to the feelings of other around you. I only say that because all people with AS don't have those traits.

Try and work on those things and people will like you.

Why do you care? Why do allow that the behaviour of others do influence your own tranquillity? Your mental well-being is your issue, only your issue. So, just do not allow others to have here a say!

Not easy being me topic

When this happens often you begging to wonder about how you appear to others. Thankfully I went through this only briefly.

Mw99, you really need to talk to a mental health professional about this as it is eating away at your self esteem. You are a good person. Use this as a starting point and take it from there. As Dussel said (and I paraphrase), do not let others define who you are. You are the captain of your soul.

Interesting observation, but some people who are different also trigger laughter.



I am not sure what makes me a good person, but I am pretty sure that I am not a bad person. So either I am a "good" person or somewhere between a "good" and a "bad" person. I know it's hard to define "good" and "bad" but what comes to mind when I think of "good" people is people who don't need to put others down in order to feel good about themselves, who try not to hurt anyone's feelings and who will gladly go out of their way to make a reasonable attempt to help others if asked for help.

Good for whom? Well, that's a great point. It's not like I share my wealth, provide protection or entertain anyone with my company, so yeah, good for whom?



I have been told a lot of cruel things but possibly nothing that cruel. I feel sorry for you.




That's true. You could be a psychopath and still be liked if you are funny, friendly or witty. Just look at the most notorious serial killers of the last 50 years and all the admirers who are still obsessed with them.



Perhaps you are right. My demeanor is such that I have to do little effort to come across as being direspectful and unfriendly. As for being sensitive to the feelings of others, all I can tell you is that I don't want to hurt anybody's feelings, and if I do, it's most likely unintentional.



One thing is to say "I don't care" and another very different thing is to actually not care. I have been saying "I don't care" almost all my life and look how I ended up: creating threads such as this one.



I don't have faith in mental health professionals. I am sure that most of them have good intentions and truly want to help their patients, but in my experience it seems that most of the mental health professionals I have met didn't have a clue about my psychology or the severity of my problems. I have reached the point where I honestly believe that mental health professionals often do me more harm than good, and that's why I am not sure I want to continue wasting time (and money) with them.

Nope. When I said I've only lived here for three years, I meant in this suburb of my hometown, not in this region. Though I'd love to be the opposite of a "damn yankee" and move to Chicago! And believe me, in the south we all know what a "damn yankee" is... those jokes are about as common as "Aggie" jokes.

That's nice to know. Thanks.