Do you find a certain kind of question difficult to answer?

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Yeh I get the same Sora... I have answers but I have too many answers and I can't seem to filter them, and all the time there is someone sitting there watching me and waiting for a response while I feel incapable of actually saying anything.
I've found the best way to deal with this if it's with someone I trust is to tell them I can't actually answer that question and ask them to break the whole thing down into several much smaller questions, often ones I can just answer yes or no to, and eventually they'll get the information out of me.

I have a very difficult time answering questions pertaining to 'how I've been' or 'what has been going on in my life/how's my job, etc.' Obviously, I mean this in the context of seeing family/old friends, in which case, they actually WANT an answer.

for years i could not answer the question "what's up?" but now i figured it's just like saying hi and you are supposed to say "what's up man, how've you been" in return

Some questions like "What's up?" were hard to answer at first. These days people may say questions similar to "How are you?" that I find confusing and a bit hard to answer. But generally in socialising it can still be hard to answer many questions for me.

Yes I do.

"What are you doing this weekend?"

I've been asked that several times today. The answer is almost always that I am going to the AS/autism centre I attend, and socialising with friends who have AS. But questions about what I'm doing at the weekend lead to the subject of AS, which makes them difficult to answer. I don't want to go around telling everyone.

When someone asks a question my mind blanks, sometimes. It depends on what the question is and what the answer is or are, if there's several.

When people say "what's up?" as in another way of saying how are you, my usual answer is "nothing", instead of "fine", because I think they're asking me if something is up.

I get confused when people ask me to choose something, especially when people are waiting for me to answer as I do not work well under pressure, so I'm like "uuuuuum, decisions decisions" even if it's a question like "do you want sandwiches or toast?"

Also questions like "do you like *suchathing*?" as I don't know if they're offering to give me a whatever they're on about or if they're generally asking if I like something

I didn't use to think that I had problems answering these types of questions, but over the last decade or so its become very apparent that I do. I used to answer, "How are you?" types by telling them every detail and I wouldn't really care if they didn't like it. In fact, usually they think you're nuts and leave me alone.
I also hate for random strangers on the street to tell me to smile more. I told one guy to get run over by a bus, and then I would smile. Seemed to work....he started walking away very quickly.

I know that those basic questions aren't really supposed to be answered....but there's some part of me that doesn't understand why, even intellectually knowing it. If you don't want to know something, then why ask. But now I just say, Fine, or Ok. I'm kind of known for telling people that I'm ok, in regards to everything. I think I've learned that you can't change the world....you can't get rid of small talk, etc.

I agree that too many choices pose a problem. And getting distracted. I go off topic a lot, as well, but seem to be able to eventually bring the conversation back to my original point.

Sometimes I tell people who I see often to stop asking me certain questions that they always ask. It doesn't work very well though. My mother still asks me if I like crackers with my soup, and I've been telling her forever that I don't and that she needs to stop asking. I try not to get upset though.

I also think it's hard to explain why I do certain things, even if I know why. There rarely seems to be just one answer for any particular problem, so how can I possibly say that I did X because of Y. And if I say, I don't know, they just think it's a cop out. Or if I tell them that I do X because of Y, Z, A, and the number 2.......then they also don't believe that either. It's very frustrating.

Someone mentioned something about how to know when kids are hungry. I was with someone once and she wanted some food, and she said it would just be a minute and left me with her baby in the stroller outside the restaurant. Well, the kid started crying........I really can't deal with the high pitched noises of crying, and the sun was in my eyes, and it was very hot out......but she said she would be a minute...so I tried to be calm, play with the child, give it a bottle. I was nearly ready to cry myself, when she came out and said that a person told her that, there was a woman outside who looked like she wasn't doing very well with her baby.
She really tore into me about how could I not know that the child was hungry. I could barely get out that she's not my baby, and she can't talk, and I tried but how can I know? Needless to say, that was a long walk back home.

I try to avoid children, especially, small babies. It's just too much.