Body Language Tips

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That's funny. I stare at the lips because that's where the noise comes out. No wonder guys hit on me all the time. LOL

Yes, my handshakes are firm and my palms are usually downward, and I'm very aggressive. Most complaints from co-workers are that I'm too domineering. I'm not bossy because I don't tell people what to do. I get wishy washy on that. But, I am fairly aggressive, and I often feel like people think I'm more aggressive that what I am. Maybe that's why.

I cross my legs all the time. I had one doc tell me I was double jointed, but I can't do anything totally amazing except that I'm incredibly flexible. Because of my increased flexibility, I'm just more comfortable with my legs the way I sit. I don't cross them the way everybody else does. I keep one leg folded up with the heel on my hip like indian style, but then the other leg just folds over that one at the knee. I don't sit like that during job interviews, and it makes me all the more uncomfortable because I can't. I'm more like a cat. I don't sit. I lounge.

The head tilt totally makes sense. Dogs communicate that way too.

Some other body language tips/reading people from the top of my head... if they shake their leg rapidly, they want to be somewhere else. And I think people do that when they have to pee, which would be that they want to be somewhere else too I guess.

I also heard that people will look the direction of the side of the brain they use, or the opposite of it. I can't remember which. You can usually tell which side is more dominant by which side they glance at more, especially with teachers in a classroom.

Undercover cops in a bar usually are the only guy not drinking alcohol, or they are sipping on the same beer for hours, and they are usually the quiet guy in the background that most people don't notice. In fact, anybody I notice who sits back and quietly keeps to themselves in a bar is generally somebody who doesn't want to be noticed. Aspies don't want to be noticed for reasons quite obvious, but NT's that do that have a reason.

The one that makes people think I'm psychic, if they hate something, that usually means they love it and it hurt them. The reason people think I'm psychic on that one is that when I hear them go on and on about how much they hate their ex, I tell them they are still in love and they are so amazed that I would know that. It just usually seems obvious to me, but I guess not most people.

Anyway, that's all I can remember from the top of my head. I'd be pretty reaching into theory to go into it anymore. But I did like that info. I just hope I don't forget it all.

I find that banging my forehead over and over on the table, shouting "Stupid! Stupid! Stupid!" is an effective expression of disdain,

Never had trouble reading people,..but I dont make eye contact because I think clearer if I dont have to wage war in a staredown,.. it's difficult enough to talk without seizing up reading the feelings in someones eyes,..and Im paranoid enough scanning for ulterior motives and mind games to go with them while listening to the person,... then when its my turn to recipricate, words that are supposed to formulate sentences into an orderly manner, turn into images and symbols instead,.. therefore I have to analyse exactly what they are internally, and untangle the scrambled mess back out of the impermissable imagery, in order to continue to deliver coherently,.. this is all excrutiatingly difficult to do in prompt due,.. Im on the most symplistic rote for communication with strangers,..and I can only imagine I come across as not only odd, obviously, but as dense as an insect aswell.